Ami1uwant Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Thank you for the helpful advice. I feel that overall he is a trustworthy person. I would just be so hurt if I found out that he was looking other girls up on fb I know he would feel the same. He's still insisting that he didn't delete the searched stuff. He said maybe one of us accidentally did it... What happens when you are holding hand and walking down the street and he turns and looks?
Author mauilurve Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 What happens when you are holding hand and walking down the street and he turns and looks? He doesn't really do that...
Ami1uwant Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 He doesn't really do that... Maybe not yet..but what would you do when he does?
pteromom Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 So you don't think him adding female customers of his is wrong? I do. And I know I can't force the truth out of him, but if he sees how much its upsetting me he might decide to tell me. No, I don't think it is wrong. He should be allowed to be friends with anyone he wants. Would you be mad if he made a new MALE friend? If not, why be mad if he makes a FEMALE friend? I just don't get it. But if just thinking he deleted a search on Facebook is getting you THIS upset, I completely understand why he would lie about it.
Ami1uwant Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Personally if I were him I would have ended it with you. You have zero trust and are likely controlling.
Author mauilurve Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 Maybe not yet..but what would you do when he does? We've been together over 3 years, he's more respectful than that. He knows it would bother me so he refrains from doing it in front of me. What I mean about "looking females up on fb" is that his job deals with booking appointments for customers (99% are female) and I would be very upset if he looked one of them up, because that obviously means he is interested in them in that way,
geegirl Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 but if he sees how much its upsetting me he might decide to tell me. I think he might decide to hide it from you. I'm sorry but you sound very insecure and controlling. With that, most times people don't divulge the truth for fear of how you may react so often times will choose to hide rather than reveal. And I am sure he hates being controlled and monitored this way. It's not attractive nor is it healthy. If you trust him, then trust that he will do the right thing and that he knows his boundaries rather that you saying he is trustworthy yet trying to put the reins on him.
geegirl Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I would be very upset if he looked one of them up, because that obviously means he is interested in them in that way, Does it mean that when I look up a male colleague, I'm interested in him that way? Or if I see a friend on a friend's page, and I look him up, I am interested in him that way? If I glance at a cute guy on the street, I am interested in him that way?
fetish1980 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 That's why i really don't fool with facebook. I'm thinking about deleting my account. It annoys me because the girl I'm talking to right now is always updating her facebook statuses everywhere we go with our pictures, out to eat, her statuses, all through the phone. O/P, He lied because simple, it's easier to lie about it because he probably doesn't even know why he did it or maybe doesn't even remember. Maybe he was drunk or bored and one night and just decided to search for random people. I've done that in the past whether I was in a relationship or not. I call Facebook the "paparazi for the common." It's getting so ridiculous now because it's putting people to the point where they have to explain everything they do and why. fetish
Ami1uwant Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 That's why i really don't fool with facebook. I'm thinking about deleting my account. It annoys me because the girl I'm talking to right now is always updating her facebook statuses everywhere we go with our pictures, out to eat, her statuses, all through the phone. O/P, He lied because simple, it's easier to lie about it because he probably doesn't even know why he did it or maybe doesn't even remember. Maybe he was drunk or bored and one night and just decided to search for random people. I've done that in the past whether I was in a relationship or not. I call Facebook the "paparazi for the common." It's getting so ridiculous now because it's putting people to the point where they have to explain everything they do and why. fetish I'm someone who believes men and women can be friends. He could have legitimately looked for a best friend from high school or college. I sometimes look to see if I can find a woman I knew since early toddler years. She grew up 3 doors down from me and was the first friend I made. We drifted apart in high school and now lost touch. I never had some feelings for her. My looking isn't for some rekindled romance.
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