lookin4he1p Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Ok so I've been dating this girl for a little over 4 months now (we've been friends for over a year). I've graduated from college, but she's still a junior. I live in the same town as the college, so we get to see each other all the time. The first couple months we dated she was at home for the summer about an hour and a half away. Her family is Muslim and I am catholic (although religions don't mean a lot to us). She's said from the beginning she isn't allowed to date, and I've been fine that her parents don't know we are (she really hates her dad btw). During the summer I drove to her as much as I could for dates, usually once a week. Her parents are really controlling, so she wasn't able to drive down to visit me. Whatever I didn't care she came back everything was great. Yesterday she told me that she may transfer to a college in her hometown, the deadline is November. Does this mean we'd be done? It's not super far or anything, but I'd only be able to see her like a couple times a week max and I'm buried under loans I don't know if I could afford it. The past couple weeks she's seemed kind of depressed, and she misses home (ironic because while at home all she talked about was leaving). She said the only time she feels happy is when she's with me. Today she told me she's really depressed and her dad makes her hate herself, and she said some scary things, like she wants to cut herself, and she thinks we should take a break because she doesn't want me to see her like this. I don't know what to say or do......
WhatYouWantToHear Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 It may not be the romantic advice you want to hear, but I think its the best pragmatic advice you are going to get: RUN. This is doomed. Religious differences aside (which I guarantee are more to it than you think), she's controlled by her father. By doing nothing she's choosing her family and culture over you and possibly even her own happiness. This isn't working in the short term and has no chance long term. RUN.
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