DANdelion5 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 We are friends who have feelings for each other. Originally I could sense he was pursuing me - but for some reason even though I really liked him I was scared and would change the subject. Fast forward a few months and I told him how I felt about him. He said he liked me too but wanted to see where the relationship would go and said if he would be with anyone it would be me. I thought he was just saying that to be nice to me and was really just rejecting me. I was quite upset about it though and a few weeks after that I saw him at a party, and despite my best efforts to avoid him he kept looking at me trying to get my attention. I was dancing and he continued to stare so I got annoyed and went to talk to him. Before I could say anything he admitted that he had been watching me and I politely asked him to stop. He stopped for a while but then stared at me intensely while I danced until he went home. I was so mad at him for staring at me, especially when I told him not to and he continued to do so. I didn't see him for a few months and when I did I saw him in the distance pointing me out to his friend, eventually he came up to me - we were both smiling but didn't say much. But I thought it was a sign we were friends again. The following week I gave him no eye contact but he followed me and pulled up a chair to sit next to me so I initiated conversation but it didn't seem like he wanted to speak to me because all his answers were quite blunt it seemed like he was mad at me. All he did was sat there staring at a picture of me on my phone. I don't know what all this means if anything at all. He rejected me so why is he acting like I hurt him?
Hawaii50 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 You've confused me... I'm pretty sure this dude has done nothing wrong. He didn't reject you, actually, did he? Or you just TOOK it that way- I don't understand. Also.. If you like this guy and he likes you, why would you go out of your way to do that? I use the aloof method, but that's for allure, once I got it I don't ignore
sweetkiwi Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 he didn't exactly reject you. Maybe he's being honest! Maybe he doesn't want a relationship right now, but if he did it'd be you. You should be asking him all this stuff. Because no one knows his thoughts or the situation better than him and you. What exactly do you want from him? He's obviously attracted to you. He obviously is still making some effort to talk to you..... What do you want? When you figure that out, talk to him, or kiss him, or whatever gets you what you want.
Author DANdelion5 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 he didn't exactly reject you. Maybe he's being honest! Maybe he doesn't want a relationship right now, but if he did it'd be you. You should be asking him all this stuff. Because no one knows his thoughts or the situation better than him and you. What exactly do you want from him? He's obviously attracted to you. He obviously is still making some effort to talk to you..... What do you want? When you figure that out, talk to him, or kiss him, or whatever gets you what you want. Well the thing is I already told him how I felt last time and I don't want to put myself on the line again. It's hard for us to get time to talk about these things because theres always other people around and he doesn't want to be rude and tell them to go away - of course not - because their our friends so its incredibly hard just waiting to get the opportunity to talk to him.
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