Ross MwcFan Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I was talking to an attractive woman today, she stroked her hair once or twice, and I could've sworn she pulled it back over her shoulders into a pony tail too. I'm just wondering how much of a sure fire sign this is that she finds me attractive.
carhill Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 IME, they do it all the time, so much so that I've discounted hair twirling as a cogent sign of anything other than hair twirling. Some would become so aggressive with it that I thought they would pull their hair out. Perhaps that was what they were trying to do, in order to give it to me to replace what doesn't exist on my head anymore If you get on with the lady and would like to get to know her better, try asking her to lunch or something when encountering such body language, then note the change. I love that part
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 IME, they do it all the time, so much so that I've discounted hair twirling as a cogent sign of anything other than hair twirling. Some would become so aggressive with it that I thought they would pull their hair out. Perhaps that was what they were trying to do, in order to give it to me to replace what doesn't exist on my head anymore If you get on with the lady and would like to get to know her better, try asking her to lunch or something when encountering such body language, then note the change. I love that part Well some women do play with their hair so much they literally do rip it out of their skull.
serial muse Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 (edited) Hair twirling or playing with your hair is not at all a sure-fire sign - sorry. I've been twirling my hair since I had tiny little tufts on the top of my head. I'm just an anxious person, and it's never been a sign of interest, but of whatever I happen to be thinking about, how much sleep I had the night before, etc. I wouldn't use that as a gauge. For some women, it might mean something, but for others, it totally doesn't. Not a reliable factor. (FYI, I never pull it out - eek! That's another disorder altogether.) Edited October 22, 2012 by serial muse
xdahliax Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I do it all the time. Just out of habit, or because it's tickling my neck or touching my face and it bothers me. It doesn't really mean anything.
ScienceGal Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I also do it often, doesn't mean anything.
Avulare Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Yes, OMG, all the time. Don't look anything more into it than us just touching our hair. Having long hair is an annoyance at times, often we touch it just to get it out of the way. Or touch it just out of habit when we're bored. One time I was driving in my car with some dude I had absolutely no interest in (it wasn't a date), and he mentioned that I was touching my hair a lot was trying to make it into something significant like he read on some PUA website or magazine or something. No, what happens is that when I'm driving I just start noticing any tangles in my hair and try to fix them.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Many young women play with their hair due to a neurosis. They need to constantly fuss with their hair since they obsessed with how they look as it pertains to fitting in. This is also why most women dress like sluts. Though sometimes you'll catch women stroking their hair because it is a self-soothing mechanism like sucking one's thumb. One night in the store I saw this. It was obvious the girl was tired and her bf was keeping her out longer and later than she wanted but it was the holidays iirc. He should have just took her home and tucked her in.
River Rain Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I twirl my hair when I'm bored...often when I'm stuck in traffic. I think eye contact, smiling and depth of conversation is more of a sign of attraction. Of course, the best way to know is ask her out.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I twirl my hair when I'm bored...often when I'm stuck in traffic. I think eye contact, smiling and depth of conversation is more of a sign of attraction. Of course, the best way to know is ask her out. I find if they try to touch you then they have some interest. 1
River Rain Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I find if they try to touch you then they have some interest. I've touched a guy on the arm after he told me an amusing tale as I laughed, I didn't plan it, but yeah, I guess that would have been a signal as well.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I've touched a guy on the arm after he told me an amusing tale as I laughed, I didn't plan it, but yeah, I guess that would have been a signal as well. I have only been touched in a flirtatious way once but the girl was with her bf and he just kept silent and stared. Awkward. 1
HeldbyGravity Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I was talking to an attractive woman today, she stroked her hair once or twice, and I could've sworn she pulled it back over her shoulders into a pony tail too. I'm just wondering how much of a sure fire sign this is that she finds me attractive. Just like how fixing your clothes doesn't Always mean you are attracted to a girl (you're just shifting things around, or fixing something sometimes), her fixing her hair doesn't always show attraction. Now if he was twirling her hair between her fingers, "playing" with it for sure, that's a stronger sign of attraction.
pteromom Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 If she is looking at you smiling at you WHILE playing with her hair, that would possibly be flirting.
HeldbyGravity Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 she* And yes, I agree^. A smile and a look added in is more flirty.
serial muse Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Now if (s)he was twirling her hair between her fingers, "playing" with it for sure, that's a stronger sign of attraction. Nope. That was my point - I play with my hair a lot, just a bad habit. Twirl it, etc. Never means anything except that I'm preoccupied. Not a reliable sign, as I said.
january2011 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I try not to "play" with my hair when facing a guy, as I find it can come across as a little schoolgirlish - no offence to anyone who does this. I look young for my age and so try very hard to avoid behaviours that make me look younger. I also used to fidget a lot - nervous tension - so try not to do anything that makes me look fidgety. The only time I'll touch my hair in public is if: I'm hot/irritable and I want to pull it off my face and neckI'm sitting by myself (say, on public transport), bored and looking for split endsMy scalp is itchyI'm putting my hands behind my head when I'm thinking YMMV.
cerridwen Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 If she is looking at you smiling at you WHILE playing with her hair, that would possibly be flirting. True. But better yet, take it as a positive sign when she's starts twirling your hair. 2
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