Adamgem Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Today I feel bad but not because of him (not really). It is more a case of lookng at myself in the mirror and seeing this older face looking back.... ...then thinking about the mess my life has become. Maybe I got involved with him to avoid thinking about these things? Has anybody else experienced something like this?
BrokenPrincess Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I'm only a week into forced NC after his wife found out. The worst part for me right now is wondering if he's thinking about me at all & missing our relationship as much as I am. I'm torturing myself thinking he has written me off as a meaningless sexual indiscretion thats jeopardized his marriage and has wiped away all the memories of long conversations & the fun we had together. I just wish I could talk to him again!!
skywriter Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 [Adamgem;4341798]Today I feel bad but not because of him (not really). It is more a case of lookng at myself in the mirror and seeing this older face looking back.... ...then thinking about the mess my life has become. Maybe I got involved with him to avoid thinking about these things? Has anybody else experienced something like this? Absolutely! This among, many other reasons, are why I couldn't allow myself to continue on with the MM. He was, quite satisfied, with the way things were.
Pierre Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I'm only a week into forced NC after his wife found out. The worst part for me right now is wondering if he's thinking about me at all & missing our relationship as much as I am. I'm torturing myself thinking he has written me off as a meaningless sexual indiscretion thats jeopardized his marriage and has wiped away all the memories of long conversations & the fun we had together. I just wish I could talk to him again!! If you break up with someone permanently. Why does it matter if he thinks about you or not? Let me explain: If he is thinking about you after the break up---------------- your suffering is worse because you have hope. If he is not thinking about------------------- your suffering should be less because you know there is no chance of reconciliation. I believe the hope keeps the pain alive. When we lose a family member we grieve, but the grieving is short lived because we know death is definitive. When we lose someone by a romantic break up there is always some hope and this prolongs the agony. I suspect there is a subset of people that want to be loved. 2
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