yongyong Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 First of all, I am very sarcastic person. I know what it is and use it all the time. But sometimes I miss others' and I think it kills the momentum of the conversation. I went out with this girl today. she was talking about she liked to read twilight books. I was agreeing with her and she told me she was just joking. The thing is she was conservatively dressed (yes non-stylish) and seemed like she was into that kind of stuff (she said she liked harry potter though) so I went along with it. I throw sarcasm all the time and when it doesn't go well (they either give weird look or I have to explain in the end that I was just joking), I blame myself for not calibrating it right. How about, when I didn't get their sarcasm or jokes, should I blame myself as well? Should I look at it as we just don't have a good connection?
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Nah you're fine. You're sarcastic but you're just not good at picking up on sarcasm. I see this all the time.
heather_1 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 No its not your fault. Im extremely sarcastic as well. You need to use a certain tone of voice when being sarcastic so that the other person understands. Clearly she didnt do this. In future, just laugh it off and say that you love a bit of sarcasm.
Author yongyong Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 Im even looking into Aspergers. I feel like I have some (meaning I miss non-verbal cues and just focus on verbal communication) I think it can kill the mood when someone throws a joke and I don't get it. The other day, this girl asked me if I had a bicycle. I told her I have a fixie. she moved couple feet away from me with shocked face (meaning you are those hipsters, ohhh I can't hangout with you). I gave her a surprised face and she said 'I am just joking lol' We were walking by a trash bar. She asked me if I go there so I told her I don't like the crowd and don't go there. she told me she goes there all the time. (I should've gotten that joke since she doesn't look like she belongs to crack head's bar at all) I told her sorry I wasn't trying to offend you and she said she was just playing No its not your fault. Im extremely sarcastic as well. You need to use a certain tone of voice when being sarcastic so that the other person understands. Clearly she didnt do this. In future, just laugh it off and say that you love a bit of sarcasm.
Emilia Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I think it can kill the mood when someone throws a joke and I don't get it. The other day, this girl asked me if I had a bicycle. I told her I have a fixie. she moved couple feet away from me with shocked face (meaning you are those hipsters, ohhh I can't hangout with you). I gave her a surprised face and she said 'I am just joking lol' We were walking by a trash bar. She asked me if I go there so I told her I don't like the crowd and don't go there. she told me she goes there all the time. (I should've gotten that joke since she doesn't look like she belongs to crack head's bar at all) I told her sorry I wasn't trying to offend you and she said she was just playing Well once you get used to someone's humour you learn to pick up the clues better but it sounds to me that this girl is smarter than you, sorry.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Well once you get used to someone's humour you learn to pick up the clues better but it sounds to me that this girl is smarter than you, sorry. or the more likely explanation is you are a misandrist.
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