40 Fonzarelli Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I might have messed it up. Been on 2 dates with this girl but didn't feel an opportunity or not enough flirting built up for a kiss. So I kissed her cheek at the end of the 2nd date. Will I be in the friend zone?
Minka333 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 It doesn't matter coz' if i liked you enough, i would wait for that moment when we both would feel right and ripe for kissing. 2
phineas Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 It depends on the woman. I was friends with a woman once. She kept re-enforcing we were "good friends" Invited me over for dinner & a movie one night (still saying we were good friends) Then she got pissed at me because I didn't try to have sex with her, lost all respect for me, friendzoned me & then tried to use me. ok, let me rephrase that, it depends on whether the woman is insecure or has daddy issues. 1
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 My ex and I didn't kiss until the 4th date I liked it and it was perfect
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I would be impressed. Finally someone that wants to get to know ME! 1
Author 40 Fonzarelli Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Interesting answers. Yea im the type to do it when the moment is right. Some guys say, "just have balls and go for it" but it would be so awkward doing it out of the blue. Im hoping I get a 3rd date but she is so damn hard to read. Our first date was a couple hours (drinks) and our 2nd date was also a couple hours (dinner and walk). Both times she couldn't stay out too late. She's also mid 30's with a kid, is that the reason why? She doesn't seem very flirty or asks me many questions. I'll be very surprised if she agrees to a third date.
january2011 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Lots of "ifs": If she didn't recoil in horror when you leaned towards her and her facial expressions and any subsequent communication seemed positive, I would take it as a good sign that she was amenable to that kiss. If she has a child, I can understand that she wouldn't want to stay out too late. If she doesn't seem flirty or inquisitive, this might just be her personality and/or she's just a little guarded - perhaps due to previous bad experiences. If you like her, get in touch and arrange that third date. Otherwise, if you're looking for someone who is more demonstrative during the early stages of dating, then perhaps she's not for you.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I might have messed it up. Been on 2 dates with this girl but didn't feel an opportunity or not enough flirting built up for a kiss. So I kissed her cheek at the end of the 2nd date. Will I be in the friend zone? My ex kissed me on the second date, but it was a kiss on the cheek, and he wrapped his arm around my waist for a few seconds... then he left. It made me the happiest woman ever.
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I wouldn't mind, especially if you touched her in other ways. For example, if you touched her hand when talking or put your hand on the small of her back. I personally prefer to feel very comfortable with a person before kissing, and it takes more than one date for me to feel like that. I don't really count a kiss on the cheek as an important gesture because I'm French and we kiss pretty much everyone, but I suppose that it means more to others. 1
GirlontheLam Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I wouldn't mind, especially if you touched her in other ways. For example, if you touched her hand when talking or put your hand on the small of her back. I personally prefer to feel very comfortable with a person before kissing, and it takes more than one date for me to feel like that. A 2nd vote for the other types of physicality. That is just as exciting. So up the touching, even if you aren't ready for kissing yet!
spiegel549 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I have been in a few situations like that. The big (kiss on the lips) over thinking when to do, what to look for. What has worked for me is try feeling her out by touching her other ways. Go for a walk and grab her hand and say "Come with me lets go check this out!" See how she reacts to that. Maybe as you two are laughing you can put your arm around her and say the joke again and laugh together. If she stays relaxed and goes with what your doing (hand holding etc) then you know she is probably open for a kiss. If she is into you, she will want you to kiss her. Don't think, just kiss her!
suladas Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Just be awesome so she kisses you first I think a 2nd date is normal, but it depends if you knew each other before the dating or not. My ex just jumped me on the 1st date so I didn't have to make the move, the first kiss didn't matter much because it ended up in a 2 hour make out session. Women are hard to read, if not almost impossible. After talking about it later on into the relationship she told me "I tried so hard to get you to kiss me, so I just had to do it myself". I had no idea she was giving off so many signals. I think the best method is to make eye contact and slowly go for it, so she knows it's coming and can react. Or pull what my ex did, do it when they don't even see it coming so they don't have time to react, wait that might not work as well on a women as a man......
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