lovinbb Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 hi everyone, im so confused by a recent message a guy friend sent me and i was just hoping someone would be able to help me understand what's going on? so there's this guy ive known for quite some time, we have history- we started off as friends years back, he asked me out but i let him down nicely, we lost touch but reconnected and we hooked up. we're still friends and keep contact and it was only about a week ago that we last spoke, just the usual friendly chat. he's usually the one who initiates contact. i was out the night he messaged so i ended up not replying to his last message which wasnt really a message that prompted a response anyway. so a week later he randomly sent a message saying : who is this i didnt reply...(didnt make sense seeing as i didnt even call or msg him to prompt a message as such) a few days later he messaged saying 'hi' and i messaged back and said hey how are you?! he didnt reply but messaged me in the morning saying: who is this? confused i replied and said: you messaged me first and you have no idea who it is? and he says no idea that he forgets to save his numbers and asked me what my old number was i said i only have the one and he's like: no idea lol and then the next day he sends me another message just saying 'hi' what's going on? is this some weird game guys play? i mean its impossible not to know who it is seeing as we had only spoken a week before?
todreaminblue Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 hi everyone, im so confused by a recent message a guy friend sent me and i was just hoping someone would be able to help me understand what's going on? so there's this guy ive known for quite some time, we have history- we started off as friends years back, he asked me out but i let him down nicely, we lost touch but reconnected and we hooked up. we're still friends and keep contact and it was only about a week ago that we last spoke, just the usual friendly chat. he's usually the one who initiates contact. i was out the night he messaged so i ended up not replying to his last message which wasnt really a message that prompted a response anyway. so a week later he randomly sent a message saying : who is this i didnt reply...(didnt make sense seeing as i didnt even call or msg him to prompt a message as such) a few days later he messaged saying 'hi' and i messaged back and said hey how are you?! he didnt reply but messaged me in the morning saying: who is this? confused i replied and said: you messaged me first and you have no idea who it is? and he says no idea that he forgets to save his numbers and asked me what my old number was i said i only have the one and he's like: no idea lol and then the next day he sends me another message just saying 'hi' what's going on? is this some weird game guys play? i mean its impossible not to know who it is seeing as we had only spoken a week before? you got m e....You confused me so i understand your confusion i am not up to date on game plays.....i know softball does that help.....no..ok does this help i would ask do you like this guy?????....if you do say hi back and continue the talk tease him maybe about not knowing who it is who is saying hi.....then say hey want to catch up if you like the guy be a kamikaze go front line attack....lol.. if he doesnt reply......ummm....no more texts that are confusing i guess..or he might just say no .......smilin....good luck.....deb
phineas Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Classic, she friend-zones him, he disappears, she see's him again then hooks up. I've done this so many times How did you see him again? Did he contact you? did you contact him? Did you just randomly meet? By the way, hooks up = an orgasm was had by someone. Not highschool first base crap. So define "hooks up" And what was asked. do you like him?
mlpony Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 hi everyone, and he says no idea that he forgets to save his numbers and asked me what my old number was i said i only have the one and he's like: no idea lol and then the next day he sends me another message just saying 'hi' what's going on? is this some weird game guys play? i mean its impossible not to know who it is seeing as we had only spoken a week before? That's weird. He probably doesn't attach a name with the number. I wouldn't waste too much energy over it (sounds like you are not really hung up on him anyhow). Next time he says "who is this" just state your name and tell him to save it this time. If he asks the question again, just ignore it and go on to better things.
Author lovinbb Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 Classic, she friend-zones him, he disappears, she see's him again then hooks up. I've done this so many times How did you see him again? Did he contact you? did you contact him? Did you just randomly meet? By the way, hooks up = an orgasm was had by someone. Not highschool first base crap. So define "hooks up" And what was asked. do you like him? When you say you've done this so many times.. how does it usually end? well? or friendships? As for your question: How did you see him again? after losing touch for almost 4 years i randomly decided to drop him a message after stumbling on his page on FB to see how he was doing. We pretty much picked up the friendship where we left off, ofcourse, we had drama in between (where some conversations would end up with him reminding me how he had a thing for me bad but i 'full rejected him back then' and how he held back from contacting me) but we've been in contact since. It's been 2 years. In the last 2 years we did hook up a few times. By hook up i mean we had sex and the orgasm was had by him, i didnt even get close seeing as it ended/he got there fast. He admitted he was embarrassed about that but i think i've done a pretty good job in assuring him its ok and tried hard not to crush his ego. Now this hook up was like last year, its been awhile. He's all talk about how badly he wants it but he never pulls through. I dont know if that incident really got to him. He initiates contact pretty much all the time and this last conversation we had..the weird exchange i outlined just threw me. I just dont understand how he could say he doesnt know who it is if we've recently been in touch (only a week before). So i guess my point is, there's no way he wouldnt of known who he was messaging. For one, there would be older messages to remind him who it is and if he deletes those messages how would he still have my number on his phone? only way i could see that being possible is if i had called him or he had recently missed a call from me to be able to retrieve it? No? I do like him but im getting a little put off by his games. I was going to reply but naturally i was insulted. So what's his angle? is he trying to make it seem like he has so many girls that he's in contact with he cant keep track? Should i message him or call? or should i wait to see if he'll initiate again? is that possible?
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 hi everyone, im so confused by a recent message a guy friend sent me and i was just hoping someone would be able to help me understand what's going on? so there's this guy ive known for quite some time, we have history- we started off as friends years back, he asked me out but i let him down nicely, we lost touch but reconnected and we hooked up. we're still friends and keep contact and it was only about a week ago that we last spoke, just the usual friendly chat. he's usually the one who initiates contact. i was out the night he messaged so i ended up not replying to his last message which wasnt really a message that prompted a response anyway. so a week later he randomly sent a message saying : who is this i didnt reply...(didnt make sense seeing as i didnt even call or msg him to prompt a message as such) a few days later he messaged saying 'hi' and i messaged back and said hey how are you?! he didnt reply but messaged me in the morning saying: who is this? confused i replied and said: you messaged me first and you have no idea who it is? and he says no idea that he forgets to save his numbers and asked me what my old number was i said i only have the one and he's like: no idea lol and then the next day he sends me another message just saying 'hi' what's going on? is this some weird game guys play? i mean its impossible not to know who it is seeing as we had only spoken a week before? Why did you sleep with a guy you previously denied?
Author lovinbb Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 Why did you sleep with a guy you previously denied? i was young and stupid. i didnt know what i wanted... i was 18 and i didnt realise he was that into me. i mean there was always an attraction between us but i was playing hard to get. It wasnt that he stopped trying with me, its just that i ended up with someone else and thats when he said he held back from getting in contact. But even though we werent in contact he ended up being friends with my brother and became somewhat close with my family. There's just something there and he's that guy that ill always have a soft spot for i guess. So the messages he sent.... any ideas?
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 i was young and stupid. i didnt know what i wanted... i was 18 and i didnt realise he was that into me. i mean there was always an attraction between us but i was playing hard to get. It wasnt that he stopped trying with me, its just that i ended up with someone else and thats when he said he held back from getting in contact. But even though we werent in contact he ended up being friends with my brother and became somewhat close with my family. There's just something there and he's that guy that ill always have a soft spot for i guess. So the messages he sent.... any ideas? Maybe he's playing with you the way you played him.
Survivor12 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I can think of a few scenarios which could account for him not knowing who the # belonged to...a few of which have happened to me. As a matter of fact, just a week or so ago I received a text asking "who is this?" from a co-worker with whom I'd exchanged #s earlier the same day! She'd entered my # but forgot to enter my name. --He does not have your number saved on his phone, but saw ran across it on a call log. --Also, if you save someone's # without the area code, and that person calls, the name will not show up on the caller ID. Rather, the number WITH the area code will appear. --He found your # jotted down somewhere, couldnt recall who it belonged to and opted to ask who it was rather than go through all of the entries on his phone looking for it. --He knows someone else with the same first name (I often enter #s without a last name) & was trying to figure out who was who. Bottom line--I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he was playing games based solely on that inquiry.
Author lovinbb Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 I know it's silly but this is really getting to me should I message or call him? Or should I wait to see if he'll message again?
phineas Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 I know it's silly but this is really getting to me should I message or call him? Or should I wait to see if he'll message again? Forgot about this thread. To answer your question I either slept with them, out right told them to goto hell or had the chance to sleep with them & didn't pull the trigger & was friendzoned again. LOL! Either way, refusing to be a woman's friend after an investment of time & energy that she knew was because I wanted more has usually gotten me the girl. but once I had them I realized I didn't have much of a prize because these types of women are just selfish. So here is my advice when it comes to women that send me cryptic texts or act this way. Very few do this though these days. I think it's because they know me & realize i'm not going to let them waste my time. I ask them what they want from me. If they hesitate, stutter, freeze, ect I tell them I am only looking to date. If they say they are also then I set a date & I tell them it isn't a date unless we kiss & since we are not strangers that shouldn't be a problem for a woman who likes me enough to flirt with me over text. Then they predictably flake & I no longer have to worry about what they want.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 You're just a far fetched and potential hook-up...obviously the guy is having a dry spell right now and trying to wrap you back into his little game. I'm not sure why this is such a mystery or conundrum of what to do...he obviously wants you to chase him after him and he's trying to appear not looking desperate but if he wasn't that why the f would be messaging some girl he had hooked up with once upon a time and hasn't been in contact since? Because he's looking for another hook-up, as long as you're willing to play the retarded cat and mouse game...If you want to make it easy for him just tell him chase him back, what's the problem here? he's obviously looking for you to make a move. No mysteries, significant feelings/romance happening here.
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