mortensorchid Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Last night I went to a party dressed up as an anime character for a theater fund raiser for a local children's theater. I saw a man I was with about two years ago who ended up blowing me off. He said he was trying to get over someone else (after a few hot and heavy weeks). Eventually we stopped talking, checked his Facebook page, and he has a new gf now. I think they live together now. Then I saw another friend from the theater who was telling me that she thought I was this guy's dream woman. It lead me to a preoccupation for weeks, then I found out he has a new gf in recent weeks. She saw me last night for the first time in many weeks (after a few contact attempts from me attempting to get the train rolling when I thought there was a train to roll), and told me he has a gf. I said I know, and that was that. The one at the party, I saw across the room. He smiled and said hello, I smiled and waved at him, but otherwise didn't say anything to him. I have nothing to say to him. I feel let down, one of those "everyone but me" feelings. And I am right in my giving up, I do nothing but get burned left and right by all these losers who do not deserve happiness. Now I just to through life on auto pilot. Ah well, life goes on.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 feelings. And I am right in my giving up, I do nothing but get burned left and right by all these losers who do not deserve happiness. Now I just to through life on auto pilot. Ah well, life goes on. Are you really serious with this … or just being dramatic? Why are these men "losers"? YOU chose to go out with them. Why do you consider yourself to have been "burned"? You dated the guys (or wanted to). It didn't work out. They have girlfriends now. I can understand feeling kind of sad and lonely when you are faced with this … but calling them losers and then assuming the role of their "victim" is really not a healthy reaction. Really, what you describe is what happens among single dating people. Some of them pair off and stick, and many more do not. And why do you say they "don't deserve happiness"? First of all, who does? But from your perspective - they only would have deserved it if they found it with YOU? Do you see how warped this is? Would you like to have a successful relationship at some point in your life? Would you be willing to take some responsibility for working on yourself so you could?
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Last night I went to a party dressed up as an anime character for a theater fund raiser for a local children's theater. I saw a man I was with about two years ago who ended up blowing me off. He said he was trying to get over someone else (after a few hot and heavy weeks). Eventually we stopped talking, checked his Facebook page, and he has a new gf now. I think they live together now. Then I saw another friend from the theater who was telling me that she thought I was this guy's dream woman. It lead me to a preoccupation for weeks, then I found out he has a new gf in recent weeks. She saw me last night for the first time in many weeks (after a few contact attempts from me attempting to get the train rolling when I thought there was a train to roll), and told me he has a gf. I said I know, and that was that. The one at the party, I saw across the room. He smiled and said hello, I smiled and waved at him, but otherwise didn't say anything to him. I have nothing to say to him. I feel let down, one of those "everyone but me" feelings. And I am right in my giving up, I do nothing but get burned left and right by all these losers who do not deserve happiness. Now I just to through life on auto pilot. Ah well, life goes on. I wish more tales from the crypt had such happy endings.
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