Emilia Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 If this was someone I was already seeing I would totally call. Random online guy i'm going on first date with that has never called me? Yeah no, I'm not going to call That's just silly. When you want to speak to a human being, pick up the phone. Arbitrary useless rules like this are immature and pointless. I agree with previous posters, you should have called. You are not a child anymore 3
Emilia Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I think you're missing the issue. As a guy doing online dating, there comes a time when you reach a point of "I don't give a shyt". Knowing it only from the guy side, after months of trying to find someone who isn't a flake, a last minute text like the one you said you sent seems completely ridiculous and puts you in the category of a flake. There comes a time when you lose the desire to put in any effort that isn't reciprocated. You probably sent the flag of being a flake and he probably didn't want to deal with another one. It's not personal, but if you truly cared about a date with this guy, you wouldn't text at the last minute for a reason like you did. That's how I see it and I can completely relate to his response. On the other hand, if anyone feels this way about OLD, they should suspend their account and not inflict their neurosis on others.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Starla, don't look to the bitter, dateless, social misfits here on Loveshack to give you constructive or valuable 'male' advice. You're just going to get angry, bitter remarks spewed at you because most of them haven't had a date since the Reagan Free Cheese Giveaway and they need someone to blame for their failures and to take their frustration out on. It doesn't sound like you missed much when the lazy ass that wanted YOU to do all the driving and make all the effort for the first meet canceled on you. Just one less lazy ass to deal with. No doubt you would have driven all the way to him and he wouldn't have even paid for your $3.50 beer. LOL. And these dumbass men want to know why they're DATELESS every Friday and Saturday night. But in turn she is dateless as well.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 On the other hand, if anyone feels this way about OLD, they should suspend their account and not inflict their neurosis on others. or learn to deal with them appropriately as he did. Confront them about what they are doing wrong and don't give in. 1
serial muse Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 If this was someone I was already seeing I would totally call. Random online guy i'm going on first date with that has never called me? Yeah no, I'm not going to call I do not understand this thinking at all. This, to me, is laziness. Maybe he has his issues, too, and I agree that it would be nice if he had suggested somewhere that is equally convenient to you. That said, he didn't and you had already agreed to the location, date and time. So why bring that up now? That is simply not the issue. Bottom line: You were the one who wanted to change things at the very last possible minute. That means YOU call, and you arrange for an alternate location. This is not about gender roles in dating, OP - this is about courtesy and maturity. You want to make a last-minute change, I don't care what gender you are, you call. Period. 2
veggirl Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 sorry Starla but I think you're being a total drama queen. YOU text him to essentially cancel the date (you didn't offer an alternative, I can see how it looked like a cancel to him--why didn't you just say "hey the bar might be really busy, how about XYZ instead?" It looked like you were cancelling) and then you get pissed off when he is like WTF to that. And now he was trying to still see you and you are saying no. 2
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 sorry Starla but I think you're being a total drama queen. YOU text him to essentially cancel the date (you didn't offer an alternative, I can see how it looked like a cancel to him--why didn't you just say "hey the bar might be really busy, how about XYZ instead?" It looked like you were cancelling) and then you get pissed off when he is like WTF to that. And now he was trying to still see you and you are saying no. Many women aren't good at dating but then they don't have to be. Usually there is another guy right around the corner to pick them up validating their bad behavior.
InJest Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 sorry Starla but I think you're being a total drama queen. YOU text him to essentially cancel the date (you didn't offer an alternative, I can see how it looked like a cancel to him--why didn't you just say "hey the bar might be really busy, how about XYZ instead?" It looked like you were cancelling) and then you get pissed off when he is like WTF to that. And now he was trying to still see you and you are saying no. Agree with this completely. It was your idea to cancel/change the date, so it is on you to suggest another place. You're full of ****.
AlexDP Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 More and more it sounds like you didn't want to do anything for this date and felt like you were throwing him a bone by just showing up. She should have called and there wouldn't have been a problem. 1
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