starla33 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Men online are absolutely ridiculous. I texted a guy an hour before our date because I realized there was a big game on and everyone would be out at the bars watching it and acting crazy (not somewhere I want to have a first quiet date). This bar was also walking distance from his house as I live far away I was driving there. He texted me back asking if I want to re-schedule (I was a bit surprised by this and though he might just suggest a coffee shop or to meet somewhere else for dinner or something to that extent) So I said sure when are you free next? And he goes "I don't know this is the 3rd date that has been canceled within an hour" Now I never canceled on this person before and him telling me this and taking it out on me is ridiculous.
Rob2183 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Men online are absolutely ridiculous. I texted a guy an hour before our date because I realized there was a big game on and everyone would be out at the bars watching it and acting crazy (not somewhere I want to have a first quiet date). This bar was also walking distance from his house as I live far away I was driving there. He texted me back asking if I want to re-schedule (I was a bit surprised by this and though he might just suggest a coffee shop or to meet somewhere else for dinner or something to that extent) So I said sure when are you free next? And he goes "I don't know this is the 3rd date that has been canceled within an hour" Now I never canceled on this person before and him telling me this and taking it out on me is ridiculous. I would prob say, he's having a "guys night" but hes not worth your time if he keeps cancelling dates!
Author starla33 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 I would prob say, he's having a "guys night" but hes not worth your time if he keeps cancelling dates! HuH sorry you might have read this wrong....
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 So you're mad because you wanted to change your date an hour before going on said date? I agree he came across as whiney but at the same time, flaking and last second changes to dates are all too common in OLD and he was probably frustrated. Reschedule if you like him and move on if you don't.
xxoo Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Why not just clarify that you were hoping to meet somewhere quieter tonight? 2
Author starla33 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 So you're mad because you wanted to change your date an hour before going on said date? I agree he came across as whiney but at the same time, flaking and last second changes to dates are all too common in OLD and he was probably frustrated. Reschedule if you like him and move on if you don't. You are not getting it. It was convenient for him i was going TO HIM driving there. He lives a street away from the bar. I don't get why he couldn't suggest somewhere else, and then get mad that I don't want to drive into the crazyness thats going on there right now
xdahliax Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 He's insecure. I (stupidly) have been to bars on game nights to "talk", it's not a good place for a first date. 1
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Why not just clarify that you were hoping to meet somewhere quieter tonight? after girl number 1 and 2.
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 You are not getting it. It was convenient for him i was going TO HIM driving there. He lives a street away from the bar. I don't get why he couldn't suggest somewhere else, and then get mad that I don't want to drive into the crazyness thats going on there right now I understand, he handled it poorly. So drop him. Be thankful you didn't invest much in that guy.
Author starla33 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 after girl number 1 and 2. They didn't cancel on him today. He means the last few dates he had from the site in general
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 He's insecure. No, he's getting overwhelmed by the combination of the flakiness of women and multidating because of the flakiness of women.
xdahliax Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 After rereading the original post, I'm a bit curious as to how you worded the initial text. He was still overly dramatic, but I'd like to know anyway.
xdahliax Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 No, he's getting overwhelmed by the combination of the flakiness of women and multidating because of the flakiness of women. Revising a date plan is not flaky, it's just ensuring that the date goes as well as possible. I personally would like to see if I get along with the person on a first date, not to be in a bar and unable to get to know the person because I can't hear a thing they're saying.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 After rereading the original post, I'm a bit curious as to how you worded the initial text. He was still overly dramatic, but I'd like to know anyway. Any emotion is overly dramatic? Okay.
Author starla33 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 After rereading the original post, I'm a bit curious as to how you worded the initial text. He was still overly dramatic, but I'd like to know anyway. I said that it might be too crazy at the bars thats about it
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Revising a date plan is not flaky, it's just ensuring that the date goes as well as possible. I personally would like to see if I get along with the person on a first date, not to be in a bar and unable to get to know the person because I can't hear a thing they're saying. He's tried to get a date with three different women and they all bailed in the end. That's pretty flaky. No man should OLD.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I said that it might be too crazy at the bars thats about it I'd take you to a McD's and get you a happy meal. If you complained I'd take you home.
mesmerized Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 You are not getting it. It was convenient for him i was going TO HIM driving there. He lives a street away from the bar. I don't get why he couldn't suggest somewhere else, and then get mad that I don't want to drive into the crazyness thats going on there right now You dont drive to guys for a first date, they do. Always keep that in mind!
Author starla33 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 I'd take you to a McD's and get you a happy meal. If you complained I'd take you home. Klassy........
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Any emotion is overly dramatic? Okay. That's what it is bro. Anytime a guy expresses his displeasure he's insecure or has emotional problems. Conversely if he displays no emotions he is emotionally unavailable and trying too hard to be macho. 1
Author starla33 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 You dont drive to guys for a first date, they do. Always keep that in mind! Unfortunately most people where I live don't have cars. (note: I'm almost at my wits end with this city of people that don't know wtf they want)
Author starla33 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 That's what it is bro. Anytime a guy expresses his displeasure he's insecure or has emotional problems. Conversely if he displays no emotions he is emotionally unavailable and trying too hard to be macho. It is when you display this to someone you have not even met!
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 You dont drive to guys for a first date, they do. Always keep that in mind! She wasn't driving to him. She was driving to a bar near him.
Necromancer Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 You dont drive to guys for a first date, they do. Always keep that in mind! Why should the guys always drive?.
LittlePrince Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 It is when you display this to someone you have not even met! Sorry but no.
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