JLS07 Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Here’s my situation: My friend and I have been friends for over a decade plus. We dated for nearly 3 years in the past. During those 3 years, it was amazing. We were each other’s best friends and confided with each other about anything and everything, but things started becoming stagnant, disastrous and it took double the energy to try to make this relationship work. We broke up because we couldn’t take the distance; he was out of the country for 6 months. When he came back, things went back to normal. Things are great now, but it's been nearly 6 months ago he told me he doesn't want a relationship. I don’t want to bring up this topic about being exclusive but I feel like I should. Do I really need to put a name on this thing we have going on or should I finally put myself out there and find an answer to this question?
Shaun-Dro Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Here’s my situation: My friend and I have been friends for over a decade plus. We dated for nearly 3 years in the past. During those 3 years, it was amazing. We were each other’s best friends and confided with each other about anything and everything, but things started becoming stagnant, disastrous and it took double the energy to try to make this relationship work. We broke up because we couldn’t take the distance; he was out of the country for 6 months. When he came back, things went back to normal. Things are great now, but it's been nearly 6 months ago he told me he doesn't want a relationship. I don’t want to bring up this topic about being exclusive but I feel like I should. Do I really need to put a name on this thing we have going on or should I finally put myself out there and find an answer to this question? I think you already know the answer. Now, step up to the plate and take a swing.
Drseussgrrl Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 When someone says he doesn't want a relationship you need to believe him. I got myself into this trap over the summer. Even though he did everything a boyfriend does, he bolted the minute I brought up exclusivity. This is a very painful sitch to be in. Bring it up if you must, but be prepared to walk if he doesn't give you the answer you need to hear in order to keep seeing him. A man who is nuts about you won't balk at the idea of calling you his girlfriend. 1
mammasita Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 You have to let him know what you want and be ready to accept his response, good or bad.
Author JLS07 Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 Deep down, I already know the answer. He treats me like I'm his girlfriend, sometimes more than I deserve. But I think he likes the fact that whenever we get into an argument, he loves saying, "we aren't together."
flitzanu Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 if you're not his girlfriend now, and he's clearly saying you're NOT, then you're never going to be, and it's time you find someone that WANTS you.
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