slytherine Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I was talking to/flirting with this guy a while back. I met him at the restuarant that he manages. We pretty much hit it off and there was definitely a mutual attraction. We both wanted to hang out with each other so we made plans. The first time didn't happen because he had to work late. The 2nd attempt at hanging out didn't happen because I was busy, and the 3rd time....I told him that my ex was suddenly trying to get back together (probably a mistake) and that I need to sort things out with him before I continue on anything. He told me that he completely understood. After that, things with me and the ex were official declared over and when I tried to talk to the new guy again, he seemed to lose enthuiasum about me completely, almost to the point of blowing me off. I told him that I was over with the ex, but he still was acting distant. He would take all day to text me back and he quit initiating contact with me. I got worried that I scared him off. He didn't reply to a text one day and I stopped initiating contact after that. A month goes by and I didn't hear from him except he kept "poking" me on facebook like every day. I was confused. But he wasn't actually talking to me with words. Suddenly I get a text from him inviting me to an amusement park with him after a month of not talking. I was happy because I thought things would be back on with him and I, but he was still acting distant and less enthused about me than before. I still continued to stop by his work and text him. One time he even asked me why I went a month without stopping by his work. I was thinking "Uh because you didn't seem all that into me anymore." A few weeks go by and he tells me that his car broke down and we can't go to the amusement park. I was bummed and he said he was too. After that, he didn't try to make it up to me or ask to see me again. I inquired about going to a movie or something and he didn't reply. A few days later, it was his birthday and I texted him happy birthday and he didn't reply. 2 days later was my birthday and I didn't hear anything from him. I didn't know if he just forgot or what. That day really upset me so I stopped contacting him. I figured he wasn't into me anymore, period and I was ready to move on. Ok so 2 months later and I came by his work with a friend (I didn't go there on purpose to see the guy...my friend wanted to go there for the food), and when the guy saw me, he acted all excited to see me and was flirting and stuff. I was still stung by him not telling me happy birthday and all his mixed signals so I kinda ignored his flirting. That was the last time I saw him in person and that was 2 months ago. The other day, I liked a facebook status that he made and then he "poked" me on facebook, but no words. I am still so confused and I can't get this guy out of my head. I am not sure whether or not this guy is still into me. Should I start talking to him again or should I let him go?
kamani Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Well, I'm not sure. It seems that he even doesn't know if he wants you or not.
Minka333 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 That is not how a guy who is into you suppose to act. It seems he is more preoccupied with something or someone else..i suggest you stop initiating contact..you have done your part..if he is really interested he will find a way more than just mere "pokings" or day after replies. If he will still be complacent, just move on. You wouldn't want a bf who doesn't make you feel important.
Author slytherine Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 Yeah I don't think I have ever been this confused. In the past, men who lost interest would just stop contact all together. I don't think he's seeing anyone else. He works like 50 hours a week and goes home and sleeps and that is his life, except for his day off, or at least that's what he told me a while back. When we first started talking, he said he's been single for a long time and wants a woman in his life again. I tried to tell him I was down for whatever but after I told him about my ex situation, he backed off quite a bit.
Mrlonelyone Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 It sounds like he's not into you anymore. The last straw was you being too busy to hang out the second time then telling him you wanted to sort things out with your ex. This was after you had started the initial phase of seeing him. In his mind you essentially dumped him for a chance with the Ex. He mourned loosing out, then moved on perhaps not totally but his heart couldn't be as in it as a really new RLship. In short, when you dumped him the honeymoon was over. Did you ever tell him it was a mistake and your sorry that you dumped /put things on hold with him? If anything you should try telling him that. Then have a frank discussion of what your feeling.
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