He said he loves me..but he's married

[veryhappy]

Wrong.

 

Very wrong.

[jennifernyc84]

Something is "missing"?

 

Before his phone call out of the blue, which happened about two weeks ago, you hadn't been talking to him for two years. This little interlude has lasted approximately week. Try to return to the status quo of the majority of time you've been acquainted with "Josh."

 

Whets with the (") marks around "Josh"?

[jennifernyc84]

Wrong.

 

Very wrong.

 

Not even a little right?

[veryhappy]

Jennifer, he has nothing to offer but heartache. Do you want even more heartache? Yes or no.

Edited November 13, 2012 by cutedragon

[ilovedhim]

The keyphrase to look for is :

I filed for divorce

 

...I gotta talk is not enough ,that's what he said last time.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Whets with the (") marks around "Josh"?

 

Will you please answer the three questions I asked you?

[Survivor12]

Jennifer, he has nothing to offer but heartache. Do you want even more headache? Yes or no.

 

Of course, she does...with a side dish of attention and another helping for desert. Jen, after 88 pages, you know damned well what's wrong about it. I'm done with this nonsense. If you still have any questions, start at page one because I'm sure they've all been answered more than a few times.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Really? Sure, if you want to prolong the drama...

 

Seriously … isn't that the whole point?

[jennifernyc84]

Jennifer, he has nothing to offer but heartache. Do you want even more heartache? Yes or no.

 

Of course not!

 

But what if he tells me he's told her? I have to call him. But i will block my number just in case.

[ilovedhim]

yes yes call. .maybe he'll say something different this time

[veryhappy]

Of course not!

 

But what if he tells me he's told her? I have to call him. But i will block my number just in case.

 

He could have written you that important piece of information in the email, don't you think? If he really has to get through to you to announce filig for divorce he could ask his mom to tell your mom, call your mom or show up at her door.

 

What he wrote is code for "I want to bs you so I get more sex out of you". Nothing more. Keep your fingers taped. The hour is also relevant. He was horny and his wife didn't please him last night. Or she did andJosh just want more, more, more.

[Lois]

I'd take a wild stab in the dark and say YES, I'm sure it did get to her. Pretty obvious.

 

 

I directed the question at Jen for a reason. I thought that would have been pretty obvious. But thanks for answering on her behalf.

[whichwayisup]

Oh my God, he emailed me last night. At 12:40am. I rarely check my personal email, actually, i never do. But for some reason, i just decided to check it..all he said was:

 

Jen, i gotta talk to you. I've been calling you. did you get your number changed? Please call me.

 

 

So he has been calling me. I think i should see what he wants. I can't let it go, right?

 

More lies and omissions by him. What do YOU think he wants? To pick up where you two left off? To beg you for forgiveness, yet tell you that having sex was a mistake? To be 'friends' again?

 

But, go ahead and pick up the phone-Call him and invite him back into your life so your pain will end. That's what you want, isn't it? Just to have him on some sort of level IN your life, even though you want him to 'lie' to you so you can hear he loves you, needs you etc.. Live that lie - Go, call him Jen.

[whichwayisup]

Of course not!

 

But what if he tells me he's told her? I have to call him. But i will block my number just in case.

 

If he had told her, he would have shown up at your door step, not put a casual email that he wants to talk to you.

 

He hasn't told her, if anything he's going to apologize for all that happened, beg you for forgiveness, ask to be 'friends' again and possibly start the A. Or he is going to apologize, say he loves his wife and all that they've been through, he can't leave or divorce her, wants friendship, but no more sex.

[ThatJustHappened]

He's probably a) looking for more sex, and b) freaking out that you're going to tell someone what happened (you did say you're close with his family) and therefore ready with things to tell you that will placate you.

 

I hope he did tell his wife. I hope you get what you want. But your story isn't that original and statistically, it's not very likely.

 

This is becoming less and less believable by the minute. But it's fun to read so I'll keep coming back.

[Mount]

Exactly.....if you choose to be the OW, then just do it, if not, then just cut Josh off.

 

I don't understand how come this such short time scenario is getting almost 90 pages responding...

 

This guy Josh even did not woo Jennifer to be his OW, somehow Jennifer just totally threw herself to Josh from the very beginning, and now she just wants to continue throwing herself to Josh....that is it, the core of the whole thing.

 

Seriously … isn't that the whole point?

[Tara247]

He's probably a) looking for more sex, and b) freaking out that you're going to tell someone what happened (you did say you're close with his family) and therefore ready with things to tell you that will placate you.

 

I hope he did tell his wife. I hope you get what you want. But your story isn't that original and statistically, it's not very likely.

 

This is becoming less and less believable by the minute. But it's fun to read so I'll keep coming back.

 

There's no need for this comment, Thajust. It's not nice to get enjoyment over someone's misfortune. With that said, make the call Jen, and do NOT back down. If he says he loves you, tell him he must tell her NOW. No more waiting. Whatever he tells you, just don't let him BS you anymore, and don't let him come over for sex. Whatever the case, this nightmare that you're in, needs to end.

[Mount]

Exactly, I do think Jennifer even does not know how to be an OW even Josh wants her to be, the drama level at this such almost "nothing" point already hits the point that unbelievable.

 

I can not imagine if Josh really is having any kind of relationship with Jennifer, note, I said any kind of.

 

No wonder he made another choice 17 years ago.

 

Geez? Didn't you already block his number? The drama. You like this don't you? Are you aiming for 100 pages of advice you blow off?

[ThatJustHappened]

There's no need for this comment, Thajust. It's not nice to get enjoyment over someone's misfortune. With that said, make the call Jen, and do NOT back down. If he says he loves you, tell him he must tell her NOW. No more waiting. Whatever he tells you, just don't let him BS you anymore, and don't let him come over for sex. Whatever the case, this nightmare that you're in, needs to end.

 

I'm sure Jen knows that I'm making a joke and trying to lighten the mood...

[jennifernyc84]

Are you reading this Jen? Mount has this right.

 

Josh didn't have to woo me. We've known each other forever, inside and out. I was ready to jump into bed with him 17 years ago lol...jk, but you know what i mean.

[Mount]

I think up to this page, we ALL get it - for sure you will continue jump into his bed, even you verbally say you won't. Guess it has been the habit or patten you throw yourself to him.

 

History always repeats itself.

 

Josh didn't have to woo me. We've known each other forever, inside and out. I was ready to jump into bed with him 17 years ago lol...jk, but you know what i mean.

[MourningLosses]

How great could Josh possibly be that would make up for what he does to people he supposedly loves or loved? That's you and his wife. Why would either of you want him at all ever even if he's free? And don't say he's a great guy. He'd have to be God to be worth the dishonesty.

[jennifernyc84]

Ok, you're right. I guess i deserve to hear that.

[jennifernyc84]

You've really never met anyone that you just felt connected to?

Someone that was just so right for you, in every way possible?

 

How can that be? I find that hard to believe.

[Tenacity]

You've really never met anyone that you just felt connected to?

Someone that was just so right for you, in every way possible?

 

How can that be? I find that hard to believe.

 

Of course we have felt that way! Every one of us here. What you need to get through your head is that what you are feeling is NOT special! And the bigger thing you need to realize is that it's NOT reciprocated! He is not into you! Every single thing he has said and done - or not done - has backed that up!

 

This guy is in damage control mode big time. He is panicked because he can't get in touch with you and he has no idea when the ball might drop on his world (your telling his w).

 

He NEEDS to talk to you - to smooth things over with you so that he has control of the situation again and you are under his thumb. Because as long as he doesn't have control of you, his world might get shattered! THAT is what he is doing! If he had left his W for you, make no mistake about it - he would have been at your door, pronto! Even if just for a soft place to land!