Movingonnow Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Here's the original story...http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/346199-3-year-gf-broke-up-year-ago So a little update, once again my ex has been talking to me again and tells she she really likes me and wants to date me again. Problem is that I don't entirely trust her. We broke up a year ago almost but throughout would talk on and off. Now she wants to me to start dating her again and "Courting her" as she calls it. The thing is I'm torn if i truly want to. I dont know if I love her or in love with her. I'm not sure if i see a spark. Another big issue is my friends HATE her. That's kinda the thing that is holding me back, and I def get it from their perspective, she was awful to me when we broke up. Was not considerate and played games and back and forth saying we should try again and then she'd do a 180 Another sticking point is that while we broke up, she slept and spoke with her old bf from HS and early on in college. (We are now 24). I asked to swear to me if she had feelings for him when we were broken up. And she kept dodging the question and refused to answer. Am i wrong for not trusting her? Why should I give her a chance. The other part is the hypocrisy, which she doesn't see. She gets on my case all the time for a girl i dated while we broke up and called her a cunt. And i said relax no need to call her that. And then she flipped out on me defending her, whereas I can say anything for her transgressions. What do I do? Should I listen to ALL my friends and finally just cut her off for good. THing is i can't really picture a future without her in it. I dont wanna be 10 years from now and feel I let her go. It's weird though that this time around Im perfectly content not speaking to her throughout the day. Also should I date other girls actively? Or continue what I'm doing and sleeping around and hitting on girls? I doubt I'm ready for another gf.... Please Advise...thank you
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