oceandreaming Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 If you asked for divorce, did you ever regret it?
jf2good Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 I regret not doing it after saying I wanted one, not going to the lawyer, not filing, not getting it done. Unless you can fix yourself and your spouse who drove you to divorce, not getting it over only prolongs the problems, eventually it will be like gangrene it will kill you or you will have to cut off something vital.
cerridwen Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 No. As great a guy as he is, we were truly irreconcilable. Five different marriage counselors, trial separation, pastoral counseling, nothing could put Humpty Dumpty back together again. We put in a lot of effort to ensure we weren't making a mistake by divorcing. We're better friends to each other now than we were then. I'm glad for that and I know he is too. 3
riverratt Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 We're better friends to each other now than we were then. I am at that point myself 1
carhill Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Ever? Sure, there were moments of regret after the word was used in the context of describing the M. In the final analysis, I'm comfortable with using it and view the process in a positive context. For myself, using the word in the context of 'maybe we should get a divorce' happened long before my EA and our subsequent agreement to divorce. It was during that initial period where I experienced regret for what I considered at the time to be an emotional response to a marital dynamic which I should have spent more time on resolving before using the word. Once used, one can't take it back. Lesson learned.
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