What would be the youngest age woman that would be okay for a 37 year old guy to date

October 25, 2012

Ross you look perfectly fine. The people nit-picking you to death are just being jerks. Your outfit was fine. I like a polo shirt and jeans on a guy but your t-shirt is absolutely normal. I guess they want you in dockers and a tucked in shirt or something? lol. Dumb. I agree you look much younger than 37. From a distance I can see the early 20s, and in the closer shots I'd guess late 20s.

I wonder if those guys nitpicking me are from the bible belt or something? Maybe everyone over 20 dresses really reserved where they live.

October 25, 2012

I wonder if those guys nitpicking me are from the bible belt or something? Maybe everyone over 20 dresses really reserved where they live.

I'm 29 and I see grown men dressed like you all the time. I have never given it a 2nd thought, nor have I ever heard anyone comment on it. And personally, I am super-stylin :bunny:

(I think you should date 25ish youngest)

October 25, 2012

Why would it matter if his age was 37 but he was on the same maturity level as you and looked around your age? Age is just a number.

Age isn't just a number, though. If it was, you wouldn't be so curious as how young you can date. Who you want to date is your business. I do think it's a bit hypocritical calling out another poster for saying that age might matter in some cases when it matters to you.

As for an immature twenty something versus an immature 37 year old- the differance is that the younger might grow mentally and emotionally while the 37 year old is pretty much going to stay the same.

Having said all this, I don't know how mature or immature you are so I'm not talking about you specifically in the above examply.

October 25, 2012

Because if I'm early 20's I want a dude who can hang with my friends and not have to feel weird about it. I am still doing keg stands. I'm still shopping at Forever 21. I'm still making bad decisions.

In my early 20's 37 seems like a LONG way off and I would hope someone that age isn't living with his parents and established in his career. In my early 20's I was finished with college, living on my own and getting my bearings. Why aren't you?

I just have to ask - instead of trying to justify dating younger women because you're "immature" (although I kind of doubt this, I think you're simply attracted to younger women physically), why don't you focus on changing your life station?

October 25, 2012

I'm 29 and I see grown men dressed like you all the time. I have never given it a 2nd thought, nor have I ever heard anyone comment on it. And personally, I am super-stylin :bunny:

(I think you should date 25ish youngest)

Are you from the US or UK?

October 25, 2012

Age isn't just a number, though. If it was, you wouldn't be so curious as how young you can date. Who you want to date is your business. I do think it's a bit hypocritical calling out another poster for saying that age might matter in some cases when it matters to you.

As for an immature twenty something versus an immature 37 year old- the differance is that the younger might grow mentally and emotionally while the 37 year old is pretty much going to stay the same.

Having said all this, I don't know how mature or immature you are so I'm not talking about you specifically in the above examply.

I do think age is just a number. The reason why I was curious was because I wanted to know what other people thought.

I wouldn't normally go for an early 40's or mid 40's woman. But if she looked a lot younger, I would go for it, especially if she her maturity level was around the same level as mine. Like I said, age is just a number.

October 25, 2012

Because if I'm early 20's I want a dude who can hang with my friends and not have to feel weird about it. I am still doing keg stands. I'm still shopping at Forever 21. I'm still making bad decisions.

In my early 20's 37 seems like a LONG way off and I would hope someone that age isn't living with his parents and established in his career. In my early 20's I was finished with college, living on my own and getting my bearings. Why aren't you?

The reason why I'm not living on my own is because of social anxiety, depression, not being able to cope with life, not being able to afford at least an okay place since living on your own is really expensive in the UK, I don't have a job, and because I'm always single, that makes it even more harder to afford your own place, since you don't have another person to put half of the money towards the rent or mortgage.

I have lived away from home before though, it was when I was 21 but it was only for a few months, I was living with my nephew (who is older than me).

I just have to ask - instead of trying to justify dating younger women because you're "immature" (although I kind of doubt this, I think you're simply attracted to younger women physically), why don't you focus on changing your life station?

There's no reason for me to lie about being immature, and yes I am also physically attracted to younger women too (mid or late 20's to early 30's), which I already mentioned several posts back.

What is a life station, you mean my life situation? I'm working on that, and I'm making progress.

Edited October 25, 2012 by Ross MwcFan

October 25, 2012

I find it amusing about how much you talk about how you prefer women your own age but often also at the same time talk about (somewhat "bragging') how you've had *many* age gap relationships.

I find it amusing that you purposefully misquote me to make some point about me "gloating." I plainly said "I -know- many, and have -had- SOME" age gap relationships. It's as if you think people can't read what was actually posted and see how silly you make yourself look. They can and do read.

Ross looks in his mid 20s if not younger as a matter of objective fact, that some in the thread are saying he looks older is one of those "straight face" moments LS is full of where members couldn't repeat some of the things they post here in a room of real people with a straight face.

Moreover, he didn't ask AT ALL for any critique of his dating style, looks, attitudes, experience level, but bringing up the age gap issue in any way seems to be the cattle call for potshot time. Some of the posts in this thread are disgusting, and say far more about the poster than about OP.

I also think it's disingenuous to compare an opinion on this topic to any kind of "nuts", religious or not, simply because you don't agree. Try a little more authenticity.

People who believe legal things others do in their relationships, sexual or otherwise, are morally wrong to the point of trotting out endless rationalizing verbiage and inaccurate, unasked for insults whenever certain topics are brought up are the equivalent of religious nuts. OP asked a simple question, some tried to answer it, lots took it as another "bash the OP" opp.

October 25, 2012

I find it amusing that you purposefully misquote me to make some point about me "gloating." I plainly said "I -know- many, and have -had- SOME" age gap relationships. It's as if you think people can't read what was actually posted and see how silly you make yourself look. They can and do read.

Ross looks in his mid 20s if not younger as a matter of objective fact, that some in the thread are saying he looks older is one of those "straight face" moments LS is full of where members couldn't repeat some of the things they post here in a room of real people with a straight face.

Moreover, he didn't ask AT ALL for any critique of his dating style, looks, attitudes, experience level, but bringing up the age gap issue in any way seems to be the cattle call for potshot time. Some of the posts in this thread are disgusting, and say far more about the poster than about OP.

People who believe legal things others do in their relationships, sexual or otherwise, are morally wrong to the point of trotting out endless rationalizing verbiage and inaccurate, unasked for insults whenever certain topics are brought up are the equivalent of religious nuts. OP asked a simple question, some tried to answer it, lots took it as another "bash the OP" opp.

Thanks mate, I really appreciate it.

October 25, 2012

I'm in the US Ross

October 25, 2012

I do think age is just a number. The reason why I was curious was because I wanted to know what other people thought.

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You do not come accross as someone who thinks age is just a number. Thing is, most people don't care what you go for. If you come accross as disingenuous about something, though, people are going to call you out for it.

October 25, 2012

You do not come accross as someone who thinks age is just a number. Thing is, most people don't care what you go for. If you come accross as disingenuous about something, though, people are going to call you out for it.

Well, I'm not really sure what else I can say. If people don't believe me then they don't believe me. If I did not think that age is just a number, then I'd say so, and I wouldn't have ever said that I think it is just a number.

Yet more bizarreness on LS.

October 25, 2012

Ross you look perfectly fine. The people nit-picking you to death are just being jerks. Your outfit was fine. I like a polo shirt and jeans on a guy but your t-shirt is absolutely normal. I guess they want you in dockers and a tucked in shirt or something? lol. Dumb. I agree you look much younger than 37. From a distance I can see the early 20s, and in the closer shots I'd guess late 20s.

The question is how does he look in person! Picture smicture

Well, I'm not really sure what else I can say. If people don't believe me then they don't believe me. If I did not think that age is just a number, then I'd say so, and I wouldn't have ever said that I think it is just a number.

Yet more bizarreness on LS.

I get weirded out when people ask other people for permission or opinions on how young they can date. Just for my own self knowledge why are you so obsessed with how young or old you can date according to random strangers?

October 26, 2012

I'd say anything above 20, but that's just my opinion. Ask yourself though, if you met an attractive 23 year old woman with whom you had a lot in common, would you abandon that prospect because some anonymous people didn't approve?

October 26, 2012

The question is how does he look in person! Picture smicture

I get weirded out when people ask other people for permission or opinions on how young they can date. Just for my own self knowledge why are you so obsessed with how young or old you can date according to random strangers?

Because they way most people or a lot of people view me influences how I view myself.

So for example, if most people saw me as a creepy guy for dating 24 year olds, then dating 24 year olds would make me feel like I'm some creepy guy.

October 26, 2012

I'd say anything above 20, but that's just my opinion. Ask yourself though, if you met an attractive 23 year old woman with whom you had a lot in common, would you abandon that prospect because some anonymous people didn't approve?

If it was just 'some' people and not most, then I guess I wouldn't abandon the prospect.

October 26, 2012

Because they way most people or a lot of people view me influences how I view myself.

So for example, if most people saw me as a creepy guy for dating 24 year olds, then dating 24 year olds would make me feel like I'm some creepy guy.

The thing is, your dating choices say something about you. You can't stop people from observing this. Your life situation also says something about you. I get the sense that you're trying to hide what you are or wanting to know how much people can see inside you so you know what you can get by with without bieng judged. The reality is, your age, your mental health, your maturity or lack of it, your living situation are going to affect how people view you. They will also determine who wants to date you, and who doesn't.

I get the feeling that you are trying to convince yourself that all these things shouldn't influence how people see you. You mention your age, you're condition, your living situation, but seem to get upset at the people who see that as a turnoff or creepy. Look, were all sized up. This is a reality that no one can escape. I think you'll be much more at ease with yourself if you accept that and move on from there. I think you will be more successful in your dating life, once your accept that others form opinions about you (like they do everyone else) and you can't really change that.

October 26, 2012

The thing is, your dating choices say something about you. You can't stop people from observing this. Your life situation also says something about you. I get the sense that you're trying to hide what you are or wanting to know how much people can see inside you so you know what you can get by with without bieng judged. The reality is, your age, your mental health, your maturity or lack of it, your living situation are going to affect how people view you. They will also determine who wants to date you, and who doesn't.

I get the feeling that you are trying to convince yourself that all these things shouldn't influence how people see you. You mention your age, you're condition, your living situation, but seem to get upset at the people who see that as a turnoff or creepy. Look, were all sized up. This is a reality that no one can escape. I think you'll be much more at ease with yourself if you accept that and move on from there. I think you will be more successful in your dating life, once your accept that others form opinions about you (like they do everyone else) and you can't really change that.

I've got no idea.

October 26, 2012

i would think the lowest to be 30

October 27, 2012

Because they way most people or a lot of people view me influences how I view myself.

So for example, if most people saw me as a creepy guy for dating 24 year olds, then dating 24 year olds would make me feel like I'm some creepy guy.

When George Washington first president of the United States went around talking to people with wooden teeth in his mouth do you think most people found that "creepy?" Yes, probably! Thing is it didn't stop him from leading us to victory/freedom.

So for example, if it was a nice sunny day and I wanted to take a walk around the lake with my shirt off I'd do it. If I wanted to take a walk around town naked, well it wouldn't be creeping people out I'd be most worried about. It would be the real consequences like getting arrested, losing my job. You know things like that.

So, with respect to dating and age just follow the law and your heart. You very well might be turned off by 18 year old's. But if you happen to find a girl you like and she happens to be 19 or what ever it would be odd to reject her for that because you're worried about random people disapproving. Heck you shouldn't even let your family or her family disapproving stop you necessarily.

If it was just 'some' people and not most, then I guess I wouldn't abandon the prospect.

Ever heard the saying "I wouldn't trade you for the world?" It kind of applies to the people you love. In a way they become a part of you. Don't give other peoples opinions so much power.

The reality is, your age, your mental health, your maturity or lack of it, your living situation are going to affect how people view you. They will also determine who wants to date you, and who doesn't.

Yes agreed, emphasis on "will also determine who wants to date you, and who doesn't."

If by chance an attractive 19 year old wants to date him and he wants to date her that should be good enough. You can't win if you're going to let other people determine who you should date. At that point just have a council of people set you up with an arranged marriage. (although I think that often times lead to old man young girl marriages)

October 27, 2012

If by chance an attractive 19 year old wants to date him and he wants to date her that should be good enough. You can't win if you're going to let other people determine who you should date. At that point just have a council of people set you up with an arranged marriage. (although I think that often times lead to old man young girl marriages)

This make think because I have a little girl. It will be a long time before she is 19. Still, I honestly would be disgusted at a 37 year old man entertaining getting into a relationship with her. I would do everything I could to encourage her to date men her age more and experience life more before dating someone who has 17 years on her. This is because I love my daughter. It's fine to say that if a 19 year old is fine with dating someone so old, then that is good enough. However, the people who care for the girl, who want the best for her, are going to encourage her to grow up more before getting involved with someone this age. I did the dating a way older man when I was a teen and have seen plenty of these relationships. Looking back on it now, with what I've learned about relationships and the dynamics that are often present in these large gap relationships (when the women is teen to early twenties), I'm disgusted with these men who dated me.

I think you should still go for what you want. If you don't, you'll be unhappy and your partner would end up deeply hurt in the end. I just want to say, that there is a justified reason why many people are creeped out at these older men dating much younger women.

October 27, 2012

This make think because I have a little girl. It will be a long time before she is 19. Still, I honestly would be disgusted at a 37 year old man entertaining getting into a relationship with her. I would do everything I could to encourage her to date men her age more and experience life more before dating someone who has 17 years on her. This is because I love my daughter. It's fine to say that if a 19 year old is fine with dating someone so old, then that is good enough. However, the people who care for the girl, who want the best for her, are going to encourage her to grow up more before getting involved with someone this age. I did the dating a way older man when I was a teen and have seen plenty of these relationships. Looking back on it now, with what I've learned about relationships and the dynamics that are often present in these large gap relationships (when the women is teen to early twenties), I'm disgusted with these men who dated me.

I think you should still go for what you want. If you don't, you'll be unhappy and your partner would end up deeply hurt in the end. I just want to say, that there is a justified reason why many people are creeped out at these older men dating much younger women.

I'd never be interested in dating a 19 year old. But could you explain what the justified reason is for why people are creeped out about and older man dating someone of that age. It also seems like you're saying that it would cause her harm, but how would it cause her harm? And how would her dating someone her own age not cause her harm?

Just trying to understand.

October 27, 2012

I'd never be interested in dating a 19 year old. But could you explain what the justified reason is for why people are creeped out about and older man dating someone of that age. It also seems like you're saying that it would cause her harm, but how would it cause her harm? And how would her dating someone her own age not cause her harm?

Just trying to understand.

I think it's because a large portion of much older men dating much younger girls are approaching it from a predatory mindset - not all, but much more than guys their age would. They have the advantage of experience, and they know that the girl will be more gullible, naive, and trusting, so some of them don't have any qualms about taking advantage of that.

October 27, 2012

I think it's because a large portion of much older men dating much younger girls are approaching it from a predatory mindset - not all, but much more than guys their age would. They have the advantage of experience, and they know that the girl will be more gullible, naive, and trusting, so some of them don't have any qualms about taking advantage of that.

That's true, that does happen.

I was thinking of a guy who was totally genuine and sincere though, as I get the feeling that a lot of the people who are against big age gaps would still be digusted and worried about their 19 year old dating an older guy even if they knew he was totally genuine and sincere.

October 27, 2012

That's true, that does happen.

I was thinking of a guy who was totally genuine and sincere though, as I get the feeling that a lot of the people who are against big age gaps would still be digusted and worried about their 19 year old dating an older guy even if they knew he was totally genuine and sincere.

What you might not be understanding, is that the 19 year old, hopefully, is going to grow and learn and experience things that they could not experience as a kid living at home. This will develop her ability to make wise choices for her that will impact her life in a positive way. If I saw a 19 year old with a much older men, I would want to say "just let her grow up, let her have her freedom, let her explore life on her own without bieng with someon who has so much more experience". In reguards to a near 40 something who feels he's on the same level with a 19 year old, I would know something was wrong with him. I mean this as no insult to people with mental problems. I know sometimes life throws you a curve ball, but I also know that a healthy normal 19 year old is soon going to advance past the older person. I've seen this many times.

If you think about it, few people get creeped out at a 10 year age differance if the younger person is around 30. This is because by this time, the younger person has had the chance to grow up a bit. It really is differant.

By the way, I didn't assume you wanted a 19 year old. I was just thinking about because of the other post.

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