What would be the youngest age woman that would be okay for a 37 year old guy to date

[danny in van]

why bother asking? Cuz the ones who object and like to call it 'creepy' are usually older women who hate the competition of a younger girl- and the younger guys object cuz they are getting none themselves...therefore you're a threat to what they consider 'their' girls...haha! If an attractive young girl gives you 'the look', you're expected to turn away cuz she didn't grow up on the same tv shows as you?? haha!

when i was wearly 20s I too hated seeing older guys swoop in on my crowd (why? Cuz i was lame w girls then ...um relative to now that is...) I understand, but as if I'm gonna stop for the guys benefit haha!

[Ross MwcFan]

that doesnt reduce the creep factor, might even increase it tbh.

 

I'm not sure what you mean by that. Are you saying that me dating someone in their early to mid twenties has a creep factor and the fact that I'm young for my age and more like them makes it even more creepy?

[pteromom]

Ross, you are over-thinking this. Just go find someone you are attracted to. If you are concerned she may be underage, then ask how old she is. Otherwise, it doesn't matter.

 

The fact that you are attracted to a wide range as far as age works in your favor. It means there are a lot of women you'd be open to dating.

 

If you are attracted to her, it doesn't matter if she is 22, 28, 35, or 45. Just go do it!

[espec10001]

Maturity wise I'd say at least 21. Why? Because usually when girls are around 21 they want to have fun being able to go to bars and party with their friends and they can get it out of their system around that age which you've already went through. A teenager is going to seem very immature to you at your age because, well, they are!

 

And for the aging thing, I'm a 29 almost 30 year old white guy and people regularly tell me I don't look like I'm past 20, but that's because I take care of myself, exercise, and make sure I get plenty of sleep. I've known some people in their mid 20's who look like they're approaching 40 because they don't get enough sleep.

[Ross MwcFan]

Ross, you are over-thinking this. Just go find someone you are attracted to. If you are concerned she may be underage, then ask how old she is. Otherwise, it doesn't matter.

 

The fact that you are attracted to a wide range as far as age works in your favor. It means there are a lot of women you'd be open to dating.

 

If you are attracted to her, it doesn't matter if she is 22, 28, 35, or 45. Just go do it!

 

Thanks.

[Oxy Moronovich]

How can I have much in common with someone the same age as me when I'm not exactly a 'man', still live at home, have little real life experience, and have no relationship experience what so ever?

You might also wanna consider meeting a woman in a different country as well.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I am disturbed by focusing on what the youngest aged woman the OP can get away with dating vs meeting and trying to relate to women of all ages and then happening to end up dating a younger woman.

[Eclypse]

With a dating range of 18-80 your options are almost limitless. The question is, what can you do to make yourself more attractive to women?

[dasein]

I am disturbed by focusing on what the youngest aged woman the OP can get away with dating vs meeting and trying to relate to women of all ages and then happening to end up dating a younger woman.

 

As he clearly states in the OP, the reason the age number is of concern to him is because of wrongful "stranger danger" hysteria perpetuated by certain LS posters about older men dating younger women as a matter of objective morality rather than the subjective factor an age gap, in and of itself, actually is.

 

OP, agree with others in the thread, don't worry about the acceptability of an age gap or what others think of you or may think. Worry about her attraction to you, yours to her and how you get along. Her interest level, not age, should guide you.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

As he clearly states in the OP, the reason the age number is of concern to him is because of wrongful "stranger danger" hysteria perpetuated by certain LS posters about older men dating younger women as a matter of objective morality rather than the subjective factor an age gap, in and of itself, actually is.

 

OP, agree with others in the thread, don't worry about the acceptability of an age gap or what others think of you or may think. Worry about her attraction to you, yours to her and how you get along. Her interest level, not age, should guide you.

 

It's not "stranger danger" when it's true!

[dasein]

It's not "stranger danger" when it's true!

 

The truth is that age gap relationships comprise a huge chunk of healthy relationships, I know many, have had some myself over the years though preferring women near my own age generally, and those who think age gaps are wrong as a matter of objective morality are no better than religious nuts who want to impose said morality on everyone else.

[Els]

Ross, I don't think what others think matters greatly, as long as you yourself are comfortable with what you are doing. Your motives are ethical and genuine, I think, as opposed to the 'I want to stick my cock into the freshest piece of meat I can find' attitude - THAT is what brings about a lot of revulsion and low opinion of others.

 

If your sole drive is to find someone as inexperienced as yourself, though, I honestly think you would be better off seeking a homely, inexperienced woman instead of just a 'young' woman. They are unlikely to relate to you as well as a woman who has experienced your sort of life. I have, for example, a 27-yo female friend who has never been in an R, but she is still different mentally from where she was at 18.

[mesmerized]

I'm not sure what you mean by that. Are you saying that me dating someone in their early to mid twenties has a creep factor and the fact that I'm young for my age and more like them makes it even more creepy?

 

Youre not "young" for your age. You're extremely underachieved for your age. Why would a young woman be interested in you? Not only she has to explain to her friends why her man is "old", she also has to explain why he has nothing going on for him at his old age.

 

Sorry if that sounds mean but you sound like you think having a young woman is like going back in time for yourself. Not true, you should try to get your s**t together now instead of dwelling on what age range to date.

Edited October 23, 2012 by mesmerized

[xxoo]

Being 37 and inexperienced and immature does not make you compatible with a typical 25 year old. It makes you compatible with another "late bloomer".

 

If you happen to meet and connect with a shy, inexperienced 25 year old, I don't see any problem with that match. But targeting that age group, because you feel about that age developmentally, is not likely to work out well. Look for a compatible woman, and let age be secondary.

[Ross MwcFan]

For record just to make things clear, I'm not asking the question because I want to date the youngest age possible. I think I explained why I'm asking the question in the OP.

 

I'm actually mainly physically attracted to women in their late 20's to mid 30's. As for what age range I'm most mentally attracted to, I've got no idea as I've only known 3 or 4 women in the last 10 years, but I'd say probably mid 20's to mid or late 30's.

[Janesays]

You look mid-30's to me. And it doesn't matter what you FEEL like. You're 37. That's what you ARE. Own it.

 

Generally, I wouldn't go younger than 32 or so if I were you. But if you go younger, it's really none of my business.

[Els]

I'm actually mainly physically attracted to women in their late 20's to mid 30's. As for what age range I'm most mentally attracted to, I've got no idea as I've only known 3 or 4 women in the last 10 years, but I'd say probably mid 20's to mid or late 30's.

 

Late 20s to mid 30s is a fairly normal and wide range for your age, so I really don't think most people will judge you for that (if that's what you're afraid of). You do need to bear in mind that for some reason, the younger the women, the more people they might have interested in them, though (not necessarily because we're prettier or better, but solely judging from the huge crowd of men proclaiming their preference for younger women), so there might be more competition.

[Ross MwcFan]

You look mid-30's to me. And it doesn't matter what you FEEL like. You're 37. That's what you ARE. Own it.

 

Surely the age I feel is more important than the age I am, afterall that's me, that's who I am, I don't see why I should try to change who I am and try and act 10 or so years older than what I am inside. If I did that I'd be being fake and not being true to who I am.

 

I think maybe my pic makes me look older than how I look in real life. In the mirror and some other photo's I look way younger.

 

Generally, I wouldn't go younger than 32 or so if I were you. But if you go younger, it's really none of my business.

 

Is that because you think it would be creepy for me to date someone in their late 20's, or even someone who is 30? Or is it because you think I'd have nothing in common with them?

Edited October 23, 2012 by Ross MwcFan

[Disenchantedly Yours]

The truth is that age gap relationships comprise a huge chunk of healthy relationships, I know many, have had some myself over the years though preferring women near my own age generally, and those who think age gaps are wrong as a matter of objective morality are no better than religious nuts who want to impose said morality on everyone else.

 

I find it amusing about how much you talk about how you prefer women your own age but often also at the same time talk about (somewhat "bragging') how you've had *many* age gap relationships.

 

I actually don't think most people hook up with people significantly older than them despite what a lot of men here want to believe that every young hot babe wants wrinkled old penis on his 40K a year salary.

 

I also think it's disingenuous to compare an opinion on this topic to any kind of "nuts", religious or not, simply because you don't agree. Try a little more authenticity.

 

Some people don’t think significant age gap relationships are healthy. Big deal.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

For record just to make things clear, I'm not asking the question because I want to date the youngest age possible. I think I explained why I'm asking the question in the OP.

 

I'm actually mainly physically attracted to women in their late 20's to mid 30's. As for what age range I'm most mentally attracted to, I've got no idea as I've only known 3 or 4 women in the last 10 years, but I'd say probably mid 20's to mid or late 30's.

 

I think you should worry more about yourself right now then the age of the woman you should date.

[ladyabstrused]

I was 18 when my ex was 36.

 

Not a good idea. Too different in the level of thinking and mindset. Even when I was 22 and he was 40, still not good. Although we'd have a connection and have some similar interests, it's just too difficult. :\

 

I'd say get someone in your age range.

[Els]

I find it amusing about how much you talk about how you prefer women your own age but often also at the same time talk about (somewhat "bragging') how you've had *many* age gap relationships.

 

Even more amusing when the same men who brag about 'age gap relationships' complain about how 'many' of the women he used to date, 'used' him voraciously for his money. If you are dating a significantly younger woman, chances are high that she will want you to buy her stuff. That isn't to say that all young women want an older man just for the money, or that no women their age will do that, but the odds are greatly biased when you go for huge age discrepancies. Because there is little reason a 20-yo will want a 40 or 50-yo otherwise. You'd think those men (I'm not talking about Ross, btw) would've gotten used to it. After all, people want what they want, no?

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Even more amusing when the same men who brag about 'age gap relationships' complain about how 'many' of the women he used to date, 'used' him voraciously for his money. If you are dating a significantly younger woman, chances are high that she will want you to buy her stuff. That isn't to say that all young women want an older man just for the money, or that no women their age will do that, but the odds are greatly biased when you go for huge age discrepancies. Because there is little reason a 20-yo will want a 40 or 50-yo otherwise. You'd think those men (I'm not talking about Ross, btw) would've gotten used to it. After all, people want what they want, no?

 

Yes. If a man wants to date a woman significantly younger, okay, so be it. But it's strange to me that the reasons a man will often site for dating someone younger is portionally about her age, youth and attractiveness but *he* wants to be wanted just for who he is. Even though part of the reason he is dating her is because of her looks. He wants to be able to be shallow about her portionally but he doesn't want her to be shallow about him.

 

When I was younger I dated older men. I did so for a variety of reasons. They were easier for me to get a long with, men my own age made me nervous and older men didn't, I knew I was the *prize*, they took me to fancy places and I got a little blinded and caught up in that, I also have some dad issues in some regards. When I went out with older men, the expectations for how money worked in our relationship where higher than when I dated men my own age. I don't see why they shouldn't have been. Part of the pay off of dating an older guy is dating him because he is more established and can give you tangible things. Isn't that what these older guys are always saying about how much more "mature" and "worldy" they are. Money comes with that hopefully. Was this shallow? Oh yes. Was I doing it to be a "gold-digger". No. I was immature and had more "fantasy" in my head. I am not that same person now and now I perfer to date men closer to my own age.

[mesmerized]

I agree that age gap relationships can be healthy but to say they make for a huge chunk of healthy relationship? Yeah thats not true.

[Els]

When I went out with older men, the expectations for how money worked in our relationship where higher than when I dated men my own age. I don't see why they shouldn't have been. Part of the pay off of dating an older guy is dating him because he is more established and can give you tangible things. Isn't that what these older guys are always saying about how much more "mature" and "worldy" they are. Money comes with that hopefully. Was this shallow? Oh yes. Was I doing it to be a "gold-digger". No. I was immature and had more "fantasy" in my head. I am not that same person now and now I perfer to date men closer to my own age.

 

Yep, this is exactly how most of the young women I know who are open to dating men twice their age think. And they're not expecting the man to bring them to coffee or a budget restaurant, either, because men their age can do that - they feel they deserve designer handbags, hotel restaurants, expensive vacations, etc from the older man - EXACTLY the sort of thing certain men here whine and whine about. I can't be arsed about it, because it's their life, and their partner's, but it annoys me to see the same men whining over and over and over and over about how 'entitled and selfish and materialistic women are when it comes to money' when they are the ones bragging about taking the very women who are most likely to be entitled in those circumstances! It's like eating lots of ice cream and complaining you're getting fat. Not sympathetic, sorry.