Exige12 Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 So I'm sure this story has been told time and time again but for all who are willing to read and respond your opinion is immensely appreciated. My Ex-Girlfriend broke up with me 9 weeks ago. We were dating for 2 years she cheated and broke up with me a year back and after a month break I was able to move on and we got back together. She spent the past year making sure she never broke my trust again and if i may quote her said "this past year you were perfect". Obviously I have my flaws but you can all understand what I'm getting at. So that's the back story, and this breakup wasn't necessarily out of the blue twice during the course of the summer she voiced her concern about doubts she had but the conversation always ended in her firmly stating I am not breaking up with you this is stupid I love you. Finally, I guess it just got to her and she ended things. The week proceeding the break up was ugly I went through many phases and eventually said somethings I regretted and ultimately apologized for.. after that we went NC for weeks until I received a text from her on my birthday. There was a short exchange "how's life and work" good glad to hear it etc. and then another week of NC until she reached out to me wanting to "talk about things If i was willing to", I replied a week later realizing that after 3 years she deserved to be heard and plans were made to meet in person later in the week. When the time came to meet she told me she was anxious and was unsure what I WANTED to talk about. Realize she had initiated the conversation of meeting up. I was frustrated and after a bit of texting called her.. we spoke and it started off an argument but ended with us laughing like we always did and she said that hopefully we'll run into each other the following weekend at homecoming. Needless to say I was confused. Well homecoming passed and I did my best to not project my feelings for her and was very short when we bumped into each other. We parted ways and she seemed upset the rest of the day happened and whenever she saw me she immediately looked sad and uncomfortable until I eventually asked if she wanted to talk. We spoke for a little less than an hour as if we were picking up where we left off in august we debated things and laughed and overall it was really nice. As we went to part ways again when her friends wanted to leave she stopped me and asked for a hug.. I know its sappy but it was the hugs I remembered not the one I expected it lingered and when we separated I asked (probably stupidly) if we could "actually talk about somethings at some point soon". I don't know what I meant by that or how she interpreted it but she gave me a very genuine yes I want to...Part of me obviously wants to see if things can be reconciled but I cannot at this point sanely get a read on whether or not she feels the same way.. Your thoughts on the situation are greatly appreciated.
fiser360 Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I really think you were doing the right thing in going NC. Although, I really think you should try again to initiate it at this point in time. From my perspective, I feel like she is just trying to see if you are still there at her beck and call the way she moves toward you, you give in a little, then she jumps back and makes it look like you started it. Kinda seems like a game of cat and mouse to me. If she really wants to work things out and TALK about everything then fine, but she really needs to make that known and absolutely 100% crystal clear before you give into it. Otherwise you are just going to keep getting hurt.
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