MrCastle Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 A spawn from my last thread. This really should have been the main topic there but it's my fault for being more broad and instead focusing on my individual situation; so let's do that here. Have you been rejected by someone but continued to pursue, and had it work out in the end? I hear all the time how girls have turned down guys but eventually the girl changed her mind and the guy got a shot. I don't know if those stories are embellished for effect because although I've heard about them, I've never seen it happen. My belief is if a girl truly wants you, you'll know it. I'm not going to continue to ask her out once she's turned me down. I don't know how you do that without coming off as creepy, stalkerish, or just plain pathetic. So does persistence actually work?
xdahliax Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 No, it doesn't work. If I reject someone, I tend to feel bad. I don't want a constant reminder that I'm rejecting someone. If I ever happen to turn a guy down and then change my mind about him, it'll be up to me to win him back. I don't expect him to wait around.
carhill Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Have you been rejected by someone but continued to pursue, and had it work out in the end? Never, and it took a number of such incidents as a younger man to break me of that habit of being patiently persistent and seeing disparate 'signs' as a reason to continue. Great life lessons, at least for my generation. YMMV.
Author MrCastle Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 The only way I see it working is if you ask someone out but they're in a relationship. Then maybe once the relationship is over they give you a shot. But if they're single and they tell you no--I think it's no.
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