nowwhatnow Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 i met this guy a couple months ago and we instantly became really close. we both had feelings for each other at the beginning. One night after we hung out he texted me saying he had feelings for me and wanted to act on them but just got out of a relationship and is enjoying being single. he said that he still really wanted to be friends if i was up for it. it wasnt a FWB situation. he just wanted to be friends. and at that point i had feelings but they weren't that strong so i agreed to just friends. fast forward for the past month we have been texting all day every day and we hang out 2-3x a week. he even texts me goodnight most nights.i have developed real feelings for him now and i dont know what to do. since he was honest with me a month or so a go, i feel like i should tell him the truth. even though i think he still has feelings for me, i dont think he is ever going act on them. the problem is i really do enjoy being his friend too. but these feelings are not going to go away and i do not want to end up getting hurt. what should i do?
River Rain Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 If you think he'll never act on his feelings, but you really enjoy the friendship, it might end the friendship if you tell him you have these feelings for him. Often unrequited love/feelings can ruin a friendship because it gets awkward. I'm usually all about honesty is the best policy, but you have to judge whether you're willing to give up the friendship if he doesn't share your feelings. Also you have to decide is the friendship going to hurt you...meaning, can you keep up just being friends while having these feelings for him. I was madly in love with a guy for years, when I was younger, but he had no interest other than friendship, and I suffered quietly. Our friendship was always awkward after that and the only time we really hung out was when it was with the group. It's not an easy thing to do.
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