Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Yeah, she tried to make small talk about how I was doing, and I tried to be brief as possible but she just kept going. Then I tell her maybe we may be friends in the future, but not for now, and she goes off calling BS to me and I just couldn't take it anymore so I hung up on her.
Mr Reptile Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Now she have made a mistake, to yell at you for telling the truth, don't respond if she tells you she's sorry or anything. Silence is a big weapon for you right now, if she remember her call to you and that YOU hang up on her, she probably wonder what you are thinking.
Pamkiss Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 This is actually a very human reaction for her. I read in a book about the 'Law of Withdrawal and Pursuit'. Like a when your dog gets out of the house and you chase after him so he runs really fast away from you. Then if u suddenly stop, he will stop running and come to you. And when he's there and u suddenly run away from him, what does the dog do? - Chase you! The same rationale applies to relationships and how you can get back your ex.
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 I actually did text her after to just briefly explain why I'm doing this (that I need to move on and that it's no hard feelings) and she responded "no worries" then that was the end of it. And Pam, that's a really interesting analogy, and it is true. I guess people do enjoy "the chase" for a reason.
Mr Reptile Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 "no worries" see this is what I was afraid of, I think you expected a longer respons from her, correct? Don't contact her! Please, stop chasing and stop with all these excuses. She did not ASK why you blocked her, right? Then you shouldn't have sent her anything. Move forward and MAYBE in the future you will find eachother again but she made a choice and she lost you. Prove to her that you are not clingy, stand up for yourself and become the man you want to be.
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 I just thought she didn't get it when I tried to tell her over and over again why I blocked her, so I thought a brief text message would get the point across. I wasn't expecting any message from her at all. I just wanted her to understand.
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 And my friend just recently told me one of her statuses after I blocked her said something like "It's really mature to block somebody on facebook." And I'm like, "Really?" You have to tell the world how "immature" I am when she's being the immature one. Btw, my friend told me without me asking about my ex's statuses. I didn't need to know. That's the reason I blocked her, but since I was given this information, I would like to share it with you guys.
Mr Reptile Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Haha this girl still cares about you without of doubt. She didn't expect this but don't care about it, she dumped you for someoneelse, what she thinks of it has absolutely zero value. And girls on facebook are writing this all the time "I hate you..." "I can't take this anymore!!!" "Why :'(" etc etc. For the attention. I also got information from my friends without asking, just tell them you don't wanna know anything and keep moving on.
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 Well, she found out about the forum thing. It was a different forum, but she snooped through my emails and saw a notification about it and told me "it's not a god damn phase." I think it's game over. She knows everything now. The jig is up. lol
seibert253 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Does she seem really happy with the other guy? I have applied NC just for my sake. It just hurts to talk to her. If she contacts me, then yeah, I will reply, but only briefly. Yeah, and I think we just saw each other too often. Pretty much everyday I would go to her house. She calls, don't answer. She texts, dont reply. NC = no new hurts. NC is just that; NO contact. If you're still communicating, you're not moving on mate. 1
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 I just didn't want to be rude, but I get your point, seibert. Yesterday, she sent me a really long text message, and I replied in two words. A little rude, but I just didn't want to say anything else.
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Well, she's really happy. Like super happy I guess. I do get the feeling of breaking down sometimes, but they happen less and less. I'm just moving on. There's nothing I can do anymore. It's out of my hands.
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