metal_chik Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Hey everybody, I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I met this awesome girl about 4-5 months ago. I'm 17 and she's 14. We got to be good friends and I found out she liked me. I'm bi, but she'd never been w/ a girl. We were together for about 3 wks and she asked me to be her g/f. Of course I said yes, I'd liked her since I first met her. We've been dating now for around 3 months. Everything is great between us, I mean we have lil spats, but nothing major at all. Her parents just found out not long ago at all. Her dad hasn't said much about it, but her mom is freakin out on us just cuz she doesn't like it. I'd do ne thing for this girl, I love her to death . Her mom says if we don't stop seein each other that she has to move to texas with her dad(which is where she's been for the past month). I'm so scared that imma lose her. I was wonderin' if ne of u guys have ne suggestions on what I should do. I mean if I have to and she would I'd wait on her to turn 18. I've already been in this kinda situation w/my first love, but my family was totally against it...and now my family has accepted it and her family is freakin out. Do we have ne chance of talkin her mom into lettin us see each other? Should we just lie and sneak around or what? Ne feedback would be sooo appreciated...thx guys.
StartingAgain Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 She is 14 years old and a child. Her parents will do what they feel is right to keep her safe. In not too many months, it will be illegal for you to have sex with this girl, so you'd do best to back off a bit. Her mother may be homophobic, but there's really nothing you can do about this. Her mother's going to continue to make it hard for the two of you and really may follow up on her threat to send her to Texas. Like it or not, your GF is a minor and she must obey her parents wishes while she lives under their roof. I think that both of you are a bit young to be having a serious lesbian relationship. You say you are bi, but she's really too young to know with any certainty what her sexual orientation is. Same sex contact is very common among hererosexual boys and girls her age. By the time they are 15 or 16, they've moved past this stage. So your waiting on her until she is 18 is a major gamble. You are only 17 and there will be many others in your life. I do not doubt that you care for this girl, but I can tell you that there is no such thing as a same sex teenaged relationship that lasts for long. When you are older, you'll look back on this time with fondness, but see it in a whole different light. Maybe, just maybe in four of five years, the two of you will hook up, but for now, all you can do is cause her major problems with her parents. If you care about her, you'll back off.
Gemini02 Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Do we have ne chance of talkin her mom into lettin us see each other? Should we just lie and sneak around or what? From the way you've described it, there probably isn't a chance of talking her mom into letting you see each other. Like it or not, her mom has the final say about her daughters life. That isn't going to change for a long time. You shouldn't lie and sneak around either, because that's not what mature people do. She is young, and like it was previously mentioned, she could change her mind about sexual orientation. She may think she is sure- but she is still has plenty more years to learn about herself, and things could change. This is a really messy situation, and I really would advise you to find people your own age to hang around with. You could be missing out on someone really great that isn't going to be so complicated to be with. You are still young yourself, don't get yourself all caught up with the drama. Have fun, you have lots of years ahead of you for serious relationships
didi_black_sheep Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 I think u are both young .... but love can come at any age .... if you both feel its best to wait and your both willing you should wait .... but if you think you can see her without her getting in loads of trouble go for that ..... just if you do sneak be careful u dont want anyone to get in trouble .... this kind of thing can hurt lots of people if not careful....
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