Pasta1234 Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Hello, I figured id stop in and get some opinions of a situation that im in that is a little unusual to me.. I'm a professional male and met this girl online, we initially got coffee together and walked for a few hours and talked. Things went fairly well and smooth, convo flowed. I asked her to text me when she got home, I hugged her and that was that. She wished me a goodnight and I responded later that night. The next morning I received a good morning sunshine text :-) We texted back and forth and eventually setup a second date the following weekend at a sports bar to watch the game (was a game she wanted to watch). We met at the sports bar, watched the game, she got pretty huggy touchy, convo flowed...everything was good. I walked her to her car kissed her cheek and asked her to let me know when she Got home safe. She does.... Later that week i ask her out to go bowling, i ask to pick her up but she says bc of her late work schedule shell just meet me there...we meet up, have a few drinks, bowl a few rounds, few hugs, high fives...afterwards we walk for a while and talk, we End at her car, i give her two kisses, we ask one another to text the other upon getting home.. At this point i figured things are looking good but what puzzles me is i frequently have to start conversation to get anything from her and when i do its a few word Responses, rarely with questions being asked back ? Also if i send a kiss or say miss yea, i get nothing back... It seems to me shes interested or otherwise i would have expected her to stop responding but yet the weird level of interest strikes me as being unusual. What should my next step be ? Should i straight out text and ask why she doesnt ask questions., send a kissback..etc. Or Should i call ask how she is and ask her out again ? Or should i call and express what i feel and ask if its mutual, would that be too awkward ? Your advice and opinions would be appreciated !! Thanks :-) P
River Rain Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Forget the texting if you want answers. Words written in emails and texts lack emotion and leave too much open for misunderstanding and confusion. Make another date and tell her in person how you feel so you can see her reaction and hear her words. That's my advice.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I'm a professional male too! what a coincidence! You are either coming on too strong or she's not really that into it...If she was she would be reciprocating, I'm not sure why people need to ask people these kinds of weird questions to someone... You - "So I messaged you a kissy face...why no kissy face back?" Her - "Well uhhh...let me think of a reason to answer that without having to be brutally honest with you" You've got to put things together on your own, if someone isn't showing you mutual interest why do you need the reason? there is obviously a reason that cannot be good as to why she is doing this. Do what you want, be one of those people that doesn't take a hint, but for me I'd be thinking....well, I'm either coming on too strong or she's got something else going on or not feeling it completely...I have to initiate conversations to get her attention and she hardly replies back...like wtf, do I need some kind of explanation to that? I wouldn't...It is what it is and if that person was really interested then I'm sure they'd show it right? She's could just be using your for someone to go out with and attention for all you know...let the other person show interest or just simply let it go, It's not complicated, I know everybody wants answers to unravel all the mysteries of the universe but don't play these kinds of games with people if they're not showing you enough interest...maybe she thinks you're too much of a nice guy..she was huggy touchy at the bar, maybe she was just feeling it and thought she'd get some external validation from some random guy on the internet but you didn't make more of a move...you never know, but it doesn't matter because when someone is interested they make the effort...that's it. And why did you kiss her on the cheek after the first date? If not the lips don't do that again. You seem like too much of a nice guy so far.
SmileFace Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I'm a professional male too! what a coincidence! Im only an amateur male..sigh. :lmao: @op - It doesn't seem as if she is interested.
veggirl Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I think you should stop with the kissy and miss you texts. It's only been 3 dates. Maybe she thinks you are coming on too strong. What if you skip a couple days of contacting her, just see what she does?
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