wham Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Ok so why do people in relationship lie about the littlest things? Do people still play hard to get when they are in a long term relationship or are they thinking it is over? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and still even yesterday he lied to me about something so tiny.We gotinto a fight a few days ago and I was going to move out,,, he said I do not want you to go, I would like it if we staied together. ok fine staied here but yesterday I called him on his cell phone because it seems like he is playing games with me, I agree to stay and he does nothing to help hold this relationship together. Since I said that I would stay he has sat back and has done NOTHING, no talking to not helping around the house. I asked him why he had not called me back when he got the message and assked him what kind of game he was playing with me. he said that he did not recive the message until after work, Well surpize I have the passcode also to he cell phone and he got it before 2, he gets off work at 7:30. Now since he knows that I have the passcode and after i stunded him like that, (I am not like that to be checking it at all) he i now calling me all day saying i love you and stuff like that. He also said that he is not changing the passcode on his phone cuz he has nothing to hide from me. Why would he back off then when being caught lying to me come closer to me? Sorry I am confussed on this one, Whamo
firewife Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Wellll, you're not gonna like the answer.......he's backing off now so you dont suspect him of doing anything else wrong. My x did this same thing DAILY,we were together for 6yrs. Now take this as you may,but it turned out he'd been cheating,for a LONG time. See, he's being sweet cause he got caught in a lie,simple. Not changing his passcode, heard that one too" Oh babe, I'm an open book...nothing to hide.....bla" Bet your A$$ that if you start regularly checking that thing and keep catching him he'll change it, or get a new phone. Personally,my x said that I was "Prying" into his life,and he needed privacy..yeah, to continue cheating and not get caught. He's betting that b/c he's been so sweet, you'll believe he really dosent have anything to hide, cause he loves you soooo much. I've sooo been where you are. If I'm right, he'll keep feeding you whatever it is you need to stay w/ him, he won't want to loose you. You take care of the house, cook I imagine, bring in a paycheck, give him sex, fulfill his needs. I can't tell you how many times I threatened to leave, and he became an angel just long enough to convince me to stay. If I were you,I'd try to dig up as much crap as I could, just to know whats really going on and if you can trust him. The best advise I have is to believe a man when he tells/shows you who he is,and do it the first time. He's already proven himself a liar, lazy with house work, and emotionally unavailable.
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