sendme Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 every night i fight the urge to contact him... it grows stronger and stronger from about 5pm until I fall asleep... every morning I wake up and am glad I didn't contact him... so tonight, I won't contact him, because tomorrow morning will come and I'll be glad I didn't.... what about you... any time of day harder for you than another? How do you get through it?
ReadMyThread Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 every night i fight the urge to contact him... it grows stronger and stronger from about 5pm until I fall asleep... every morning I wake up and am glad I didn't contact him... so tonight, I won't contact him, because tomorrow morning will come and I'll be glad I didn't.... what about you... any time of day harder for you than another? How do you get through it? THE MORNINGS! OH MY GOD THEY ARE THE WORST! Now to avoid them I stay up until like 5 am and go to sleep and wake up at like 3pm or 4pm just to avoid that feeling. And the weekends are F****** brutal. My ex is in highschool still so I know she's at school all day Monday through Friday but on the weekends, TORTURE! .
Calico Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Love, why is this so hard for you? The man beat you? He physically abused you. You can't possibly want more of this and he didn't change in just a few weeks or months. My father was a man like that. It took my mother years to free herself (us) from him. Don't go down that path. As for the question, I have the hardest time in the first two hours after waking up, especially when I dreamed about her. That's when I am most likely to do something stupid or drown in regret and self-pity. Evenings used to be hard too, but that has gotten better now, though it's in part because I started to acquire a few chat buddies to keep my mind off, or I play a video game that requires constant attention. The time in between is usually fine. It does get easier in time, as long as you don't make contact.
LosinginLove Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Every day, all day is hard for me. It's difficult to see/speak to someone on a daily basis for 15yrs then all of a sudden you can't see them or hear their voice. I failed at NC for the 1st 6wks. Now, it's been 5 days and I'm holding strong. I'm trying to heal from the trauma of our "break" and NC is the best way to do that. I took a friend's suggestion and made a game out of it. Here are the rules: I can't call/txt him for at least 3wks. If I go 3wks w/o contacting him then I treat myself to something I really, really want. (I chose a day at the spa) I really want to contact him but I also really want a day at the spa. So, my rewards for going NC is to 1. HEAL and 2. A mani, pedi, facial and massage. I'm excited.
malmsu09 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Night time is also the hardest for me. Starting at about 6pm until I fall asleep. I have trouble falling asleep because I get so upset and worked up. I also work night shift 3 nights a week so on my days off it's hard to go to bed early... it's so painful. I check my phone often with the weird hope that he is thinking about me and contacts me. Even though I know that it's not healthy. It's such an emotional mess.
mishy Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 i dont know if you have seen my threads sendme but i know exactly how you feel and that even though he treated you badly you still want him. Its an addiction, and its probably the same feelings that people go through when going off drugs, bad withdrawal, and you think oh if i just contact him i will feel better, and you will but it will be shortlived, and then you are back to square one. Worst times for me is about 10:30 at night, but generally the whole thing is horrible and hard.
max921860 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I find that all times of the day are hard. Probably because of the old patterns that we had. Usually in the morning and saying goodnight. Still look at my phone 50 times a day during those times expecting a message to come through. Only 2 days since official break and having a tough time. Still in denial. Hope you get through it!
thembones Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Night time for sure. When I am alone doing homework or whatever, usually from 9-11 because it is just me and my thoughts. It is not all that hard all the time, but that time is the toughest. I know not to text, because it will just hurt me. I am NOT going to hear what I want to hear. If she wants something, she will text me.
Svet74 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 im trying to fight the urge but only because he owes me money
Author sendme Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 uggghhh.... and here we are again... sun is setting... he's next door and I'm feeling lonely... Nightime sucks.... about to finish laundry and then study study study....
foreverastone Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 After drinking, because alcohol is a depressant and nights aren't too much of a problem because I've tired myself out but I have to agree with everyone on here that mornings are the worst!! Sometimes in my dreams I see my ex and it will always be something happy. Then when I wake up and realise that it was all a dream I feel so disappointed and sad that I can't get him out my head even when I'm trying not to think of him. It's times like this that I wake up in the morning going over the dream I just had and i may end up wasting 2 hours lying in bed just analysing the dream and comparing it to the break up. I then get upset because I've wasted so much time lying in bed not doing anything and wishing and wishing that he would get out of my head It's hard but I'm looking forward to the day when I realise that I've forgotten him. Kind of like when gollum disappeared from smeagol in LOTR haha
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