Gloria25 Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Did deleting someone's pictures, telephone number from your cel, gifts given you made you feel better? I'm looking for everything related to the guy I was hanging with as of late and just want to dump it. Right now I'm gonna dump a box of candies he had given me. It feels so good just to delete him out of my life!!! Please share!!!
Calico Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I threw away stuff that is replaceable and not personal, things like the candies you mentioned. That always felt liberating, much like re-arranging your apartment or sleeping on the other side of the bed. I have never, and would never, throw away irreplaceable things like photos, videos, handwritten letters, even emails. However, I have (and always would) store those things in a box and then put it away, out of sight and easy reach (attic, basement, far corner of a wardrobe). There is definitely no value in looking at old photos, sleeping with memory-infused plush animals, wearing their t-shirts, etc right after a breakup, or in the months after it. But I cherish memories and objects with meaning, even if the people linked to them are no longer present in my life. In the long run. They were an important part of my life, after all. 1
thembones Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I would love to know my Ex's answer to this question, because I gave her so many items. I do wonder what she did with the items. She did throw away an ex-boyfriend box when we were into the relationship, saying that she would be with me forever anyways. HAH Joke is on me! Anyways, I deleted all of her pictures and saved "nice" text messages from my phone.. the anniversary, best boyfriend award, anniversary, be with you forever, etc... I really felt good, if only because I did not have to look at them anymore. I also have her pictures, letters, and memories in what I always called "Her Name"-Box. It was out right after the breakup and that was a PROBLEM for me. It is since away in a place where of course I know where it is, but do not go there often. I told her that I did not want to become a shoebox under her bed, but that is essentially what she has become for me.
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 IT'S ALL TRASH All of the items I have mean nothing now, irreplaceable or not. Just like all the words, hugs, kisses, I love you's, touches etc..... That she once gave me and also means nothing now.
fiser360 Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I've always found that getting rid of everything hurts at first, but its for the best. Kinda reminds me of a Dane Cook skit I believe it was... About how deleting someone out of your phone, you really press that delete button like your deleting them out of existence. It really feels good. But really, I think that it is a good idea to go ahead and get rid of everything. Stay strong!
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