JackD4niels Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 My girlfriend and I have been talking about wearing a ring lately. It does not necessarily have to be an engagement ring (we've been dating for 7 months - LDR now), but we both enjoy the idea of getting engaged in the future very much. If you have to give it a name, it will probably be a relationship ring, but that does not matter. The thing is, I like both of these rings a lot. They're completely different from each other in style. I don't need your opinions on what you like 'best' as a personal taste, but which one do you think is more suitable for the above mentioned situation? http://i49.tinypic.com/2ci741c.jpg http://i49.tinypic.com/2uomiyo.jpg I am more inclined to go for the first one, but perhaps that one is a bit too much?
utterer of lies Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 [X] None of the above. The mere idea of a dating ring.. well.. don't do it. 3
cerridwen Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 My girlfriend and I have been talking about wearing a ring lately. It does not necessarily have to be an engagement ring (we've been dating for 7 months - LDR now), but we both enjoy the idea of getting engaged in the future very much. If you have to give it a name, it will probably be a relationship ring, but that does not matter. The thing is, I like both of these rings a lot. They're completely different from each other in style. I don't need your opinions on what you like 'best' as a personal taste, but which one do you think is more suitable for the above mentioned situation? http://i49.tinypic.com/2ci741c.jpg http://i49.tinypic.com/2uomiyo.jpg I am more inclined to go for the first one, but perhaps that one is a bit too much? The second one gives the impression of being intertwined. It's the better choice.
veggirl Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 very strange idea. I don't get it. a Promise Ring type of thing you mean? The mormons in my high school got those... out of those rings, though, I like the style of the 1st best but am not a fan of yellow gold.
xdahliax Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Why only 95%? Oh yeah, it's true, you care. Did you like my like?
utterer of lies Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Oh yeah, it's true, you care. He was implying imperfection - trolling me! Did you like my like? This seems important to you. Why?
xdahliax Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 (edited) He was implying imperfection - trolling me! This seems important to you. Why? Nah. Hawaii, I also like that glamour shot. Edited October 20, 2012 by xdahliax
Author JackD4niels Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 It's not a promise ring. Would be more towards engagement ring, but it is too early for that.
xdahliax Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 It's not a promise ring. Would be more towards engagement ring, but it is too early for that. I think you should wait until you're ready to get engaged. I don't get the point in engaging to be engaged to get married. Too many steps for me.
rubberduck Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I'm with everyone else, it seems a bit.. unusual.. I don't understand why you'd need a ring to show you're dating. How old are you both? If you have a view to getting engaged, why not wait and make a ring more special? If it's too soon for that, it's probably too soon for a ring.
yongyong Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 you need to surprise her with an engagement ring without a notice. But for a promise ring, I would go to the shop with her and let her choose. Btw, when you give her the ring, what if she take it as 'proposal?' are you going to say 'oh I am not proposing right now. it's just a promise ring'? lol
Author JackD4niels Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 Okay, I feel like I owe you guys a bit of an explanation. As been said, we've been dating for 7 months and are currently facing a 3 year LDR (different continents) where we see each other once a month for a weekend. We really like each other, even talked about getting married in the future if we survive this. It might sound silly, but a ring feels closer to each other, especially with this distance. Maybe engagement would be an option, but I feel like it's too early for that if you're both apart for 3 years from now. On top of that, she will not see this as a proposal. We've talked about it and told me she'd enjoy the fact of wearing my ring. On the other hand, I think engagement is a bit too early. Anyways, the general consensus seems to be no - thanks a lot for the reactions Age is 23 - 25.
bellabella Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 When I was 20 I left the country for 8 months to do a voluntary job and didn't see my boyfriend at the time for that whole period. He bought me a ring before I left, it wasn't a promise ring, engagement ring, just a nice, relatively inexpensive ring. I wore it on my right ring finger (not my wedding ring finger) and I l
bellabella Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Oops, pressed post by mistake. I loved wearing it. We didn't end up together, but never regretted getting a ring. As for which one, I'd let her choose. If it all works out she will probably want to continue wearing it once you are engaged/married, so I would get the same metal she will want for those rings. Good luck with the LDR!
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Look, part of being of a man is being able to make decisions for yourself regardless of outside influences and pressure, so If you're going to have some fortitude in this situation I can understand. With that being said, you should always keep an ear out just in case you really are doing something stupid, and you have to always ask yourself one question "Am I doing what I feel is the right thing to do and do I believe in it?" If the answer is yes, then live and learn, but chances are here that realistically....If you're like one of the many billions of people who have been in this similar situation on this planet, the chances of this working out are very slim...three months is a very short time, your age means lack of experience and maturity (not in a bad way just normal way), your elevated emotions are directing you blindly towards a faith...which in itself is not bad, you need to learn from your mistake and you'll never not make any. My advice would be to purchase something like maybe a necklace and If It has to be a ring make it fairly inexpensive. The problem with a ring is that it signifies something very serious, your eagerness and willingness to plop a ring on this girls finger is symbolic, regardless of what you want to call it...and quite frankly, a bit jumping the gun to say the least. Sure, some people are going to tell you that they met someone, got married in 3 days and now they're still happy...when their journey isn't even half way through or even really begun....and this isn't the 1950's either, people need to stop bringing up great grandpa or grandpa to justify what they feel is true "romance", or even their parents...It's a different world now, It's a lot more liberal and less restricting and traditional than it was back then...when you give people choices and options, they can make a lot of different choices then IF they had one or two. As far the type of metal, I'd say go with silver, not a big gold guy myself unless It's both gold and silver/platinum (I don't know jack about rings, you'd have to ask an Armenian/Persian they love gold).
Author JackD4niels Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 Look, part of being of a man is being able to make decisions for yourself regardless of outside influences and pressure, so If you're going to have some fortitude in this situation I can understand. That's right. It's not that these reactions are going to influence whether or not I will buy one - notice that's not the question I asked in my topic - but to see how it's looked upon. My reasoning is if we both really enjoy it - it serves a purpose. I don't see how it will backfire in any way later. If it does not work out for some reason, I could not care less about spending $1,000 on a ring. It's not that we are stupid (both Ivy League grads and been in a long term relationship before), but LDR is a complete different thing - I don't have any experience in this area, so I am looking for any option that would make this easier.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 That's right. It's not that these reactions are going to influence whether or not I will buy one - notice that's not the question I asked in my topic - but to see how it's looked upon. My reasoning is if we both really enjoy it - it serves a purpose. I don't see how it will backfire in any way later. If it does not work out for some reason, I could not care less about spending $1,000 on a ring. It's not that we are stupid (both Ivy League grads and been in a long term relationship before), but LDR is a complete different thing - I don't have any experience in this area, so I am looking for any option that would make this easier. I do have solid experience in the area of LDR over the course of years. I guess my biggest gripe personally is that I'd like the ring to mean something more...It's not really the money, unless I really had none. It's just interesting that of all things you chose, you chose to give her a ring...I find that interesting and a way of trying to solidify commitment with her and some kind of security in the relationship without an actual engagement. If you really don't want to lose her, there is a time-table to that in LDR because it creates a lot of challenges and is difficult emotionally to get through, and sometimes you've got to strike when the iron is hot...life doesn't make things very much convenient if you really want to be with her, you might have to in the near future try to work out a compromise of being together, It's extremely hard to have a real relationship over long distance it just doesn't give you the same challenges and experiences of a proper relationship because everything is such in a contained and controlled manner. You're going to be spending a lot of time and effort into communication, that's really the staple of LDR...that's your major focus, when you're having a local relationship it can fall a bit on the back-burner as most people will just hang out, hook up and enjoy each others company....in LDR you have to know how to communicate and express your emotions on a regular basis, and sometimes both people don't agree with what works or how much.
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