RomanceLow Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Recently, my ex texted me asking how i was doing. We had broken up three months ago bcs he cheated. I forgave him since i was leaving to college. Three months pass and he texts me. He asks how i am doing and tells me not to be a stranger. I still like him and want to talk to him. What should i text him?
Squidoo Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 He's throwing you breadcrumbs don't reply, he more than likely doesn't have a love interest at present and is just wanting an ego boost to see if you're still into him. Be strong and keep the silence, if he's that determined he'll keep trying. 1
Author RomanceLow Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 Dear Squiddo, You really think if he wanted me he'll continue to contact me? I'm scared that he will stop talking to me thinking i'm moved on
dreamstate83 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Dear Squiddo, You really think if he wanted me he'll continue to contact me? I'm scared that he will stop talking to me thinking i'm moved on You could just ask him what he sees this re-connection as. If he gives you anything other than "Im sorry I messed up and i think we deserve a second chance" then just let it die... permanently. Trust me, if he wants you back he will say so.
Squidoo Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Dear Squiddo, You really think if he wanted me he'll continue to contact me? I'm scared that he will stop talking to me thinking i'm moved on What would be worse.... To reply and then get nothing back, or show that you won't melt that easily from a out of the blue text 3 months on. I would advise keep up the no contact, but sure if you're that worried he'll stop talking to you then go ahead and reply and see where it leaves you.
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Dear Squiddo, You really think if he wanted me he'll continue to contact me? I'm scared that he will stop talking to me thinking i'm moved on Yes he will and don't be scared. This is your desired outcome, believe it or not. Do you want someone who doesn't want you? Do you want someone who has/might cheat on you? If he never comes back he answers that question for you. If you ignore him and the subject changes to "I'm the stupidest guy for cheating on you, it was the biggest mistake I've ever made, I can't live without you" then there is substance. Anything else is breadcrumbs, and they come in different sizes. You cannot allow someone who took you for granted to just walk back in your life. You have more self worth than that. If he wants back in he's going to have to do a lot of work. If he's not willing to put in the effort then you have even more evidence to not let him back. Read this thread! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/258925-me 1
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