Under The Radar Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Just want others thoughts on this since it was mentioned in another thread. I have limited dating experience having spent much of my adult life in serious long term monogamous relationships. I was always under the impression women like to meet in public for a feeling of safety/security. If a walk in the park is NOT a cheesy first meet up, then what might be some other activity ideas (beyond the typical coffee/drinks meetings)?
Leegh Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I would suggest meeting at a mall and possibly sit at the food court and have Coke's. I think she'd feel more comfortable at a mall then at a park for a first meeting. Possibly for a future date, a park would be a good place to go. If the meeting goes well at the mall, you and she could see a movie, as most malls have movie theaters.
Author Under The Radar Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 my honest opinion... Maybe. Hey, Hawaii50, could you elaborate? I've read a lot of your advice to people and it seems pretty solid (especially in the marriage forum). Any insights?
Author Under The Radar Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 I think it would be goodto see this women in public, too, but a mall sounds... mid western. If a girl wanted to meet me in a park as the first time, I wouldn't be thinking weird of it. Like it's too much too soon. lol. There's going to be a lot of dead empty quietness if you're not keeping up the convo. Where as is a cafe or at least breaking the ice at a cafe is 1. less creepy 2. more social. You'll get to see she's not a social-reject, and prove to her more importantly-that you're not a social-reject. Getting some coffee and then a walk in the park/downtown.. sure, great idea.. Break the ice in a social environment for a few minutes and see if there's enough chemistry for a walk in a park. Otherwise you could be spending the next hour in the middle of some park with some random you met online. AWWWWKWARD Ok, got it. That seems to reflect my thoughts as well. I've never heard of going for a random walk as a first meet up. Seems like a great way to scare the S... out of someone all while being labled a creep
lilyblue Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 No to the mall... I think a walk in the park is fine. I've done it and it has gone well. One of my guy friends does that for every one of his first dates to see if they're active enough for him. While I don't endorse that.... I think a walk is common enough and not creepy at all.
River Rain Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 What kind of park are you guys thinking of, lol...a park is a public place. If a guy asked me to go for a walk in the park, I would love it, I wouldn't think it was creepy at all. There are lots of distractions in outdoor venues, if that's what you're looking for. I'm confident in my conversations skills, I think being one on one with a guy would show me his conversation skills, they don't need to be perfect because nerves do take over, but that aspect of a guy's personality is very important to me.
tigressA Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 A great first date would be meeting in a bookstore. You could walk around in there for a bit, and there's a lot of material to spark conversation and discover each other's interests. I did it and it was really fun. 2
River Rain Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 A great first date would be meeting in a bookstore. You could walk around in there for a bit, and there's a lot of material to spark conversation and discover each other's interests. I did it and it was really fun. That's a good idea!
xdahliax Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I guess a walk in a park isn't too bad. Depends if you're in the middle of nowhere or if it's in the middle of the city. I had a first date in a park and it was perfect because there were lots of people around and a lot to comment on, not unlike a coffee shop. Art exhibits or museums are good too.
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