lana_sa Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 We met 3 months ago(live in different states) and we have been talking the last 3 months every day on skype,but today i see on fb he wrote about a girl that he called "his love"..so i was shocked ..when he wrote that he was drunk but before that he messaged me the whole night.I have no idea what to do,,,i feel so stupid,so should i tell him something? i mean,sure we were not in a relationship and we never promised each other anything but the way he was talking to me was more than just friendly,and more than just for sex(we did not have sex,just to clarify).So my question is if i should ignore him or if i should just ask him?
River Rain Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Don't play games, don't ignore him. Ask him directly, but in a non-confrontational way. Next time you're Skyping, just say something like "I saw you referred to 'your love' on FB, are you with someone?"...then see how he reacts.
mortensorchid Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Yes, ask directly and see what he says. If he gives some weird answer or something, blow him off. He could be just yanking your chain. 2
mysteryscape Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 maybe YOU are his love! I would ask him.
Author lana_sa Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 maybe YOU are his love! I would ask him. No he mentioned her name I have still not asked him ,i kinda ignored him the whole day iu did not write or anything on skype which isa strange for us,so he wrote to me "you ignoring me?" he has no idea i am even thinking about the thing on wall So how can i bring it up as "naturally" as possible?
mysteryscape Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 It is completely natural to wonder but it ain't gonna be easy. You should just ask him about it and then discuss how you feel about him and it. I think you have good reason to feel burned, even if neither of you made any promises. If you're really skyping hours at a time, he should at least have mentioned it, long ago. I remember once not too long ago, someone I was interested in mentioned her "sweetie" very early in our conversing. I got the message immediately and it may have saved me a lot of trouble.
gullibleme Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 I would just say...I'm not necessarily ignoring you but I don't want to be in the middle of you and a relationship you might have, thats not for me, then explain you say the post and was taken back by it...-you should ask something though for your own piece of mind.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 It's more than likely true and another woman...but what was the exact message he typed out?
xdahliax Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 No he mentioned her name I have still not asked him ,i kinda ignored him the whole day iu did not write or anything on skype which isa strange for us,so he wrote to me "you ignoring me?" he has no idea i am even thinking about the thing on wall So how can i bring it up as "naturally" as possible? You don't need to make it sound naturally. Just ask, you've been talking with him for long enough that he should be able to be open about a comment he made on facebook. Don't make it sound like there's anything wrong with it, but it's normal to be a little curious in your position. I'd ask a guy that I speak to that much regardless of whether he's more than a friend or not...because I'm curious Lol
taya Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 (edited) Yeah you should ask him whats up so you no what your into nothing is wrong with you asking him you need to know so you can do whats best for you , I SURE WOULD Edited October 21, 2012 by taya
LittlePrince Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 We met 3 months ago(live in different states) and we have been talking the last 3 months every day on skype,but today i see on fb he wrote about a girl that he called "his love"..so i was shocked ..when he wrote that he was drunk but before that he messaged me the whole night.I have no idea what to do,,,i feel so stupid,so should i tell him something? i mean,sure we were not in a relationship and we never promised each other anything but the way he was talking to me was more than just friendly,and more than just for sex(we did not have sex,just to clarify).So my question is if i should ignore him or if i should just ask him? More the merrier.
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