counterman Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I'm currently 22, still studying. I've only been in one relationship and that was 3 years ago. And I'm still a virgin. I remember back when I was with my ex-girlfriend, she always spoke about the 'long-term' or the 'future'. She would be like "we'll be living with pet dogs in the future. Also, whenever I got close to intimate with her, she would say "we'll be having sex in the future, so can't we wait?" The issue was she rarely got any attention during high school and I was the first decent guy to show a lot of interest in her. I was doing well at school and she wanted to "lock me in" so that she has someone. However, she wasn't that attracted to me... and was interested in someone else who had a girlfriend already. This someone was a friend of mine. Anyways, fast forward to a month or so before we broke up. She said "you are more of a husband type and not someone I should be dating at the moment" - fast forward to now, and she's been dating that guy for almost 3 years. I have many girl friends who have locked in guys and vice versa, already at a young age. In almost all the cases, it is their first relationship. I've spoken to some of them about their relationships and I hear accounts of how things really go behind the scenes. Some of their relationships aren't going really well and a lot of them are incompatible but they don't break up because they're scared of not meeting anybody else. I was surprised that there's so many instances like this. My situation currently is that I haven't had much success thus far this year... I'll always keep trying though even when things don't go so well. After my first relationship went sour, I decided to really go for what I want, which is to date many girls and sort of discover what I want and what works for me. However, it was easier said than done. I want to keep going but I must admit the loneliness does get to me and sometimes I wish there was just someone there. In saying that, I know that if I do decide to get into a relationship with a girl I'm so-so about, there will always be a part of me that will wonder 'what if'. On the other hand, I want some stability by the time I'm 30... How do you guys feel about locking in someone?
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