Themtwo Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 [sIZE=4]Quick Facts:[/sIZE] Me and my girl have been together a year and 2 months. She swears up and down im her everything nd she loves me so much etc. I really care about her nd dont know wat too do, (otherwise i wouldnt be on this site asking advice from strangers) We are both 17 Before me she was with her ex for 3 and a half years from ages around 12-16. He was her first real boyfriend, Her first love, Her First (and only besides me) .....etc. Claims she had too walk away from him because he changed ,wasnt the same amazing guy he was during most of those 3 years, was going no where in life, etc. Throughout our whole relationship, she has never brought him up, however for the past few months he has been the topic of many depressing talks. Why? Because I always bring him up assuming she still has a thing for him or something like that.. I know, i have deep insecurities about this guy and their relationship.. Recently she confessed over the summer she saw him and had a brief conversation with him, but never told me. She says she didnt think it mattered enough too bring up ... What too think of this??? Last month we got into this huge fight nd the next day I fought her ex. Couple days later she tells me she decided she has to hit him up one more time and get her "closure" she never got. She broke up with him? What closure does she need? Well i suppose she had her conversation and although it actually took place BEFORE she told me she was going too shoot him a text, she sent me pictures of the messages too show me what they talked about... See attachments below: (If pictures are too small I inserted notepad file that has all the messages typed) [sIZE=4]Questions: [/sIZE] Based on your "expert" opinions and past experiences, how would you interpret her feelings for this guy? I am sure she had a much bigger and closer bond with this guy than me but she swears she loves me now and is completely moved on from him.. Is she still hanging on by a thread or have feelings for him?? Could I be a rebound?? I saw the way he responded too her and it looked like he didnt want anything to do with her... She however was being pushy and clingy for answers. Does that mean anything? Ultimately I know I do love her and want to be with her bad, however if there is still something there between her and him then I cannot be involved, I have told her many times if she needs time to think about this and she refuses sayinng she know she wants and needs me and is over him. Should I believe her? Is it mee or does it look like what she wanted was too have some sort of last heart to heart, sad talk where t hey let all those feelings about the break up out...? Did she want another chance with him??? She said she missed him... Plenty more details if you have any questions please feel freee and I will elaborate as clearly as i can.
Author Themtwo Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 This below is a transcript of the conversation they had since I dont know how to post the pictures on here.. Andy? Whis this Can I talk to you... its felliee What Andy, Im so sorry for everything... & Im not just talking about now Im talking about back then too... I know you dont care but I need closure from you:/ Do yourself a favor and delete my numbers Andy please talk to me... I owe you an explanation for everything I actually owe you a lot.. I dont want you too hate me :/ delete em Andy I realized a lot lately and im so so so sorry for everything.. & I at least wanna be your friend Wtf?! i fought your boyfriend cause he thinks im jelous of you guys.. duces Andy dont shut me out... & I dont even know if hes my boyfriend anymore and i really dont care! & you know you dont give a **** about me ... :/ Stop talking to me before he starts to think **** again No I wanna talk to you and ill tell anyone that...! Andy I miss having you in my life...... save it & leave me alone I cant completely let you go without knowing how you felt & feel about me now..:/ I feel nothin for you.. there bye Thats not good enough I wanna hear it all andy no matter what :/ Just stop seriously No andy just tell me... I wanna hear everything that you have ever wanted too tell me... Straight up leave me the **** alone seriously Answer me this one question and Ill leave you alone... why do you dislike me so much? I dont like i said i feel nothin for you. now leave me alone. I want you to explain and ill leave you alone forever if thats what you want... I just want closure from you because your my first love and its never easy to let your first love go... you always have been apart of me andy it was easy for me. bye How was it easy ? Andy i want you to tell me how you felt :/ ima stop replying now ok Ugh your still so stubborn :/ Okay ima just say how i feel and i dont expect a response... Andy you are my first love no one can replace that... you made me so happy happier than anything and anyone everything I did for you i hope you appreciated it I did it all cause i loved you so much and there will always be a place for you in my heart... yu were amazing until the end of our relationship and sometimes i miss it but i know it can never happen again... It is what it is but i just need closure to forget it all :/ i know your gonna say idgaf and all this but as I have said what I had to then that's that... I just wish someday we can be friends and I wish you the best I still have hopes for you... Ill always care. Idont care
mesmerized Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Duh, read the convo you just wrote. Yes she still loves him, MOVE ON.
Author Themtwo Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 Duh, read the convo you just wrote. Yes she still loves him, MOVE ON. What is it in the convo that made you believe she still loves him? How did you interprett it ? What does she want from him?
Author Themtwo Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 Come on people replies not just views .... There has too be someone who can decipher this in plain simple words .... I need too be reassured or confirmes :/
tori0001 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Her ex seems angry and hurt, and she still loves him.
veggirl Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 if she was over her ex, that convo never would have taken place. You are too young to be in such a serious relationship anyway.
Author Themtwo Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 thats wat i told her and she said all she needed was "closure" or she just had too say what she had too say and thats it .. what is it that makes you say she still loves him ? Also what does him rejecting her make her feel does it make her want to come back for more??
Million.to.1 Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 She feels guilty because he was hurt, by her, and now wants nothing to do with her. She want him to say it's ok and them be friends so she can relieve her guilt. She should leave him alone, and if she won't, you should break-up with her.
Author Themtwo Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 hm thatt makes sense... I just feel like deep inside she still has something for him. She has not had any contact with him since and she says she never will. She never does bring him up or anything but I always do :/ am i doing this too myself ?
Keke1 Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Im going to tell you. Please leave this girl. She is going 2 continue contacting him. You didnt even know they had before. If its up 2 her to determine if its important to tell you if they have contacted she probably never will. Besides you have to work on your issues. They can doom a relationship.
Author Themtwo Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 Thanks/ Can i get other peoples views on this ? Its not that she has had contact with him I know she hasnt, it was only that one time she texted him.. bumppppp
rubberduck Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 "Wtf?! i fought your boyfriend cause he thinks im jelous of you guys.. duces Andy dont shut me out... & I dont even know if hes my boyfriend anymore and i really dont care! & you know you dont give a **** about me ... :/"
phineas Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 What did I just read? Kid, you are 17. You are not going to marry this chick. You should not have to deal with this kind of BS. Box her stuff, give it to her & end it. Seriously. Nobody here is going to tell you this situation is healthy. 1
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