ImperfectionisBeauty Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I'm assuming you're around my age (21) because I can't imagine being 30 and single either, it seems so depressing but I am not really worried about how I will look at 30. I'm sure if you take care of yourself you won't be ugly at 30, and just work hard to find someone now so you don't have to worry about being single at 30.
mesmerized Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Do men want you now?? If the answer is no ( which seems to be the case) then you have to worry about other things rather than turning 30.
GirlontheLam Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Better guys were interested in me after I turned 30. And I got a lot smarter about going to the places where the right guys were going to be (and better at picking out the ones who were attracted to me, and reading their signs.) Don't worry about it. 1
threebyfate Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I live in a mid sized city and I know lots of people here. There are lots of over 30 single women in my area. No single men though. There seem to be single men in their 50s and 60s, so I guess I just need to wait a few years. Actually, I'm not opposed to dating a 50 year old now as long he wanted children.Have you seen this article and map about singles distribution by gender? A singles map of the United States of America - The Boston Globe
Shaun-Dro Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I am very terrified of turning 30. I'm scared men won't want me anymore. When I see girls who are younger than me I feel very insecure. How do I get rid of this paranoia? It's easy. You do 2 things: don't reveal your age and hit that gym as hard as your body can take. 1
oaks Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I am very terrified of turning 30. I'm scared men won't want me anymore. When I see girls who are younger than me I feel very insecure. How do I get rid of this paranoia? Create an account on a dating site. Say "yes" when guys ask you out. 1
kae Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Men love ALL women. Hello..i believe that`s the problem..hehe sorry guys. low blow
phineas Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Create an account on a dating site. Say "yes" when guys ask you out. /thread 10 characters
iris219 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Have you seen this article and map about singles distribution by gender? A singles map of the United States of America - The Boston Globe Yes, there are blue circles all around me. I'm not convinced that the places where there are more single men than women are any better for over 30s. I assume there are lots of very young single men. There are college aged single men where I live now, but that isn't doing me any good!
goldengirl11 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 (edited) How am I jaded? I've met three single men this entire year and I don't mean three I wanted to date. Most people are paired up by 30. That's simply the reality. Oh this is exactly the same as me!! Because of this I'm feeling that I might've been too picky. I said this to my Dad actually and he said that you can never be too picky with that sort of thing. You might have to see them everyday!! P.S. I hate it even more because my younger sister-in-law now 27 has just moved in with her bf of a year. Whereas I'm now 34 and feeling a little bit sad i.e. like I missed the boat and that my familly are secretly wondering when I'm going to settle down with someone. I just don't think I put in enough effort with meeting men in my twenties when there were more available. Edited October 20, 2012 by goldengirl11
goldengirl11 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 It's easy. You do 2 things: don't reveal your age and hit that gym as hard as your body can take. My older sister didn't seem to have any problem with attracting/keeping men when she was younger (she married at 24 when she lost her virginity by choice to her husband), yet was still quite overweight and said that she couldn't be bothered to diet! How dare she?! Would she be saying that though if she was in her 30's and still not met the one? I feel the ones who can't be bothered to lose weight or/and happy with their size seem to have devoted partners.
iris219 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Oh this is exactly the same as me!! Because of this I'm feeling that I might've been too picky. I said this to my Dad actually and he said that you can never be too picky with that sort of thing. You might have to see them everyday!! P.S. I hate it even more because my younger sister-in-law now 27 has just moved in with her bf of a year. Whereas I'm now 34 and feeling a little bit sad i.e. like I missed the boat and that my familly are secretly wondering when I'm going to settle down with someone. I just don't think I put in enough effort with meeting men in my twenties when there were more available. I would have done things differently in my 20s for sure. I stayed way too long in the wrong relationships and wish I hadn't. I didn't date in my 20s. I had a couple of LTRs instead. It might have been better to date while there were still options. There are people who meet and marry after 30, so it's possible that it will happen for you. I'm in an area where it's not likely for me, but I still have some hope. My older sister didn't seem to have any problem with attracting/keeping men when she was younger (she married at 24 when she lost her virginity by choice to her husband), yet was still quite overweight and said that she couldn't be bothered to diet! How dare she?! Would she be saying that though if she was in her 30's and still not met the one? I feel the ones who can't be bothered to lose weight or/and happy with their size seem to have devoted partners. I agree. I like being thin and fit, but I feel some pressure to do so. I'd feel it less if I had a partner. 1
Stupid Girl Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 This thread is so silly. OP, I'm not 30 yet, but I can tell you my dating options have only gotten better - much, much better - as I've gotten older. When I was in my late teens/early 20s (the age many men on this site will tell you is "optimal" for a female), I was pursued by immature college boys who took extra long to finish their degrees, unemployed boys still living at home, etc. Now, in my mid/late 20s, I'm pursued by intelligent, successful men (as recently as 3 days ago, a COO of a large corporation). I think it's because as I grow and learn and become more successful myself, I'm more of a quality person, therefore I draw more quality people to me. So really, if this keeps up, I can only hope I'm still single when I'm 30, and by then I should be able to find a man of the highest quality possible. 3
xxoo Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 How do I get rid of this paranoia? Practice living in and enjoying the present. Release your regrets about the past, and worries about the future. Then, when the future comes, you will be well practiced in living in and enjoying the present. Bonus: people who truly enjoy the present are attractive to others! 1
Author MissJoness Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 It's the "women lose their looks after 30" threads that have me worried. They exist on every dating forum. It has caused a bit of anxiety for me
ThaWholigan Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 It's the "women lose their looks after 30" threads that have me worried. They exist on every dating forum. It has caused a bit of anxiety for me Those are by bitter men seeking to wind women up and make them insecure. Do not take any notice of them. Women can certainly look great well into their 40s and even 50s. Do not worry about it at all. I have been attracted to many women in their late 20s way up into their late 30s and higher. Just take care of yourself and try not to worry! 3
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 You must live in the woods. In most cities its easy to find single people over 30 and even over 40. This is an insult to people that have lived in the woods! 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 What a 29 year old woman looks like What a 30 year old woman looks like Sincerely, (((Some))) LS Men
mortensorchid Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 That's is nonsense to think that others will not want you when you turn 30. It's getting harder and harder to meet others, no question about that, but if you keep your weight down and take care of your appearance, you will still look good. THat is, if your looks are what you are concerned about. You will feel good about yourself, better about yourself when you turn 30. Lots of nonsense is behind you, you have gotten certain things out of your system, you're really an adult.
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