MissJoness Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I am very terrified of turning 30. I'm scared men won't want me anymore. When I see girls who are younger than me I feel very insecure. How do I get rid of this paranoia?
iris219 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 The men left will want you. However, there will be very few single men your age left by 30. If I knew how few single men there would be at my age (33), I'd have married my high school boyfriend, even though he cheated on me.
Author MissJoness Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 The men left will want you. However, there will be very few single men your age left by 30. If I knew how few single men there would be at my age (33), I'd have married my high school boyfriend, even though he cheated on me. by then I can just date younger, right?
RachR Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Let me guess...you're in your late teens to early 20s, right? When you're that young, 30s seems old. 4
mtnbiker Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 The men left will want you. However, there will be very few single men your age left by 30. If I knew how few single men there would be at my age (33), I'd have married my high school boyfriend, even though he cheated on me. I call B.S. There are countless men who were career oriented or moved around a lot in their 20's. Many are now divorced from a first marriage that was made because they thought they found the one or thought it was the thing to do. There are many men who were simply "late bloomers". You sound extremely jaded, which is sad. 4
Drseussgrrl Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Oh that's garbage. I'm 33 and having a blast. 27 year old wants to take me out next week. A few very hot men over 30 texting me tonight. And the guy I'm hanging with this very second is 25. It's only gotten better for me. Are you taking care of yourself? Men love women in their 30's. Then again I live in dc. Maybe it's diff in urban areas. 4
utterer of lies Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I am very terrified of turning 30. I'm scared men won't want me anymore. When I see girls who are younger than me I feel very insecure. How do I get rid of this paranoia? You don't. You get old and desperate or bitter. Or both. Sorry. 2
Author MissJoness Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 I am scared I wont look young anymore in my 30s, and that I wont find anybody 1
iris219 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I call B.S. There are countless men who were career oriented or moved around a lot in their 20's. Many are now divorced from a first marriage that was made because they thought they found the one or thought it was the thing to do. There are many men who were simply "late bloomers". You sound extremely jaded, which is sad. How am I jaded? I've met three single men this entire year and I don't mean three I wanted to date. Most people are paired up by 30. That's simply the reality.
Author MissJoness Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 I need an anti depressant:sick: 1
utterer of lies Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I need an anti depressant:sick: No, you don't. It could be worse, don't be so weak.
CptObvious Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I am scared a woman won't want me when I turn 50 and can't go to the gym anymore cause my joints are ****ed. Fair game though, since even the greatest batters get forced into retirement. There's not much you can do besides lose some weight, get some bigger tits, and whatever else kind of surgery you need. I can't realistically see another way you can compete with 18-25 yr olds. Good men are out there, but even they have standards.
iris219 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I am scared I wont look young anymore in my 30s, and that I wont find anybody You'll still look young. That's not what I'd be concerned about if I were you.
ascendotum Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 When I see girls who are younger than me I feel very insecure. How do I get rid of this paranoia? What do you see when you look at older women...are all the single 30 something women sad & depressed, walking with a desolate look on their face, taking solace in food, and shopping, and talking about cosmetic surgury and how wonderful the company is of their cat or dog? Women over 30 get buckets of msgs on OLD. I thought I read some survey were women's self esteem/confidence levels were at their highest in their mid 30s. Don't get absorbed by junk culture media which is obsessed with beauty & youth. Don't get fat and you will have plenty of options for many years. 1
mtnbiker Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 How am I jaded? I've met three single men this entire year and I don't mean three I wanted to date. Most people are paired up by 30. That's simply the reality. Perhaps you live in an unpopulated area, because your "reality" is not that of my mid-sized city. Even just by statictics, if half of all marriages end in divorce, counting some percentage of the rest in a dating relationship, there are still "countless" numbers of both women and men that are still or relatively newly single in their 30's.
CarrieT Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I am scared I wont look young anymore in my 30s, and that I wont find anybody Well, you won't look like a teenager any more, but because you will have grown accustomed to the reflection in the mirror every day, I can guarantee that you won't realize you look different ten, twenty, or forty years from now. You will look exactly the same to yourself because it will be so gradual that you won't realize you are changing. And at that point, your brain will have matured to a point where you better figure out how to find some body, so that will be a non-issue as well. No need for anti-depressants. Just reconcile to the fact that life goes on and you will be fine. 3
Author MissJoness Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 Well, you won't look like a teenager any more, but because you will have grown accustomed to the reflection in the mirror every day, I can guarantee that you won't realize you look different ten, twenty, or forty years from now. You will look exactly the same to yourself because it will be so gradual that you won't realize you are changing. And at that point, your brain will have matured to a point where you better figure out how to find some body, so that will be a non-issue as well. No need for anti-depressants. Just reconcile to the fact that life goes on and you will be fine. That's scary. So I won't realize that I look older?
iris219 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Perhaps you live in an unpopulated area, because your "reality" is not that of my mid-sized city. Even just by statictics, if half of all marriages end in divorce, counting some percentage of the rest in a dating relationship, there are still "countless" numbers of both women and men that are still or relatively newly single in their 30's. I live in a mid sized city and I know lots of people here. There are lots of over 30 single women in my area. No single men though. There seem to be single men in their 50s and 60s, so I guess I just need to wait a few years. Actually, I'm not opposed to dating a 50 year old now as long he wanted children.
mtnbiker Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I live in a mid sized city and I know lots of people here. There are lots of over 30 single women in my area. No single men though. There seem to be single men in their 50s and 60s, so I guess I just need to wait a few years. Actually, I'm not opposed to dating a 50 year old now as long he wanted children. That's good that you are open to other ages. It is a shame though that you don't seem to meet many single men in their 30's or 40's. I don't live in your city, but I find that hard to believe. I wish you the best.
CarrieT Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 That's scary. So I won't realize that I look older? Nope! And - at that point - you will be mature enough that it won't matter because you will be comfortable in your skin and not starting silly threads like this... Either that - or you WILL be starting threads like this that you are going to be panicked about looking old and being single at the age of 60! :laugh:
iris219 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 That's good that you are open to other ages. It is a shame though that you don't seem to meet many single men in their 30's or 40's. I don't live in your city, but I find that hard to believe. I wish you the best. Thanks. It's true. I have a female friend who hasn't had a BF in 10 years and one who hasn't been on a single date in 6 years. It's depressing here.
mtnbiker Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Thanks. It's true. I have a female friend who hasn't had a BF in 10 years and one who hasn't been on a single date in 6 years. It's depressing here. You girls should relocate, myself and another friend are currently looking, haha.
Ami1uwant Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 by then I can just date younger, right? someone like myself who is around 40 will be happy to date you
threebyfate Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 When the clock chimes at 12:00 a.m., the morning of your 30th birthday, you will turn into a pumpkin and no man will want you. Good luck! 4
suladas Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 30 isn't old, plenty of women look as good as any early or mid 20's women. Plus for the most part by 30 women are more settled down and having a lot of other things going for them that younger women don't. I was going to say less crazyness and all that stuff, but found out from my ex, nope age doesn't change that.....
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