Dazed_Confused1989 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Hi everyone, One months ago my ex-girlfriend ended our 5 year relationship. We were best friends, lovers and soul mates. We both firmly believed this! Unfortunately, the last three months were bumpy and we didn't spend as much time as we would have liked together. She lost feeling for me and did not want to try to work things out. I am in my 'anger' stage - I wish she could have at least communicated this as she was feeling it, or given herself more time and space. I still love her with all my heart, but am still so hurt and upset. Not a day has gone by where I don't think about her. I don't know if she feels the same way, even if it means I just pop into her head for some unknown reason. The last 2 weeks have been good for me - I've been keeping extraordinarily busy. But today I found out she was going overseas for some time. I felt a range of emotions, including insecurity and a strong sense of dependency on her. I've worked hard to loose these feelings since the BU. I also felt like she was 'leaving' me again. I still want to try, but it appears as though she does not...Advice please!
not-a-drive-by Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 How long do you mean by "some time"? Is it just a holiday she is taking or moving to another place for a while? For me, after my ex broke up with me, all I wanted to do was travel and get out of this place. All my surroundings reminded of him. Travelling is a great way to de-stress. Perhaps she is doing this as a method to cope with the break up. Let her travel and think about it. When she returns, you can give it another try.
Author Dazed_Confused1989 Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 I'm not sure how long she will be gone for. I don't even know what purpose it is for. But she had been talking about doing some volunteering before the BU. I don't know - she was just so defiant about the BU - it seems like she has made up her mind...but I can't drop the issue. Should I text her to have a safe trip, just to remind her that I want her to be safe? Or should I stay NC? I know nothing is going to change in the short-term. My only option is to get away, work on myself, and begin a friendship beginning early next year.
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