Author zanesfan Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 Haven't read the whole thread. Some of OP's desires are controversial for reasons other thans sexual openness. Sex in public will and has gotten many men in legal trouble. Most of us know one or are one. Many women don't understand that police often view minor criminal acts of women as "cute" or an opportunity for a comeon. Simultaneously they view the same acts by a man as predatory, worthy of a night in jail or worse, up to and including a sex offender registry, which men are learning to fear. In most states, there is no statutory difference between getting a BJ in a parking lot and purposefully flashing a shopping mall or nursing home. Police presence and the "misdemeanor industry" in this country is at an epidemic high. I think OP may be broaching the topic of sex practice desires a little early, and if she waited awhile and contented herself with vanilla stuff in the first couple of months, she would find her partners more receptive to new things over time. Months? Im not waiting months to find out if a man is willing to try something new with me. If he hasnt done some of these things in 32-34 years, Im pretty sure he wont try them now. And if he hasnt tried it, I still dont want to be with him. As far as public sex goes, Im not talking about purposely trying to get caught. Maybe outside on my porch at night, or at a park at night, or maybe giving a bj will he is driving.
mortensorchid Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Well, when you're in this situation where one is more "into other stuff" than the other, it can create friction. But you both have to approach it with a sense of humor if you're going to try stuff. Then you will both feel good about it. If not, then you're not going to be happy with each other. Best to find someone else who is also as open to things.
Pompom Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 And this, ladies and gentlemen, is why I find it ridiculous to keep your virginity until after marriage. Don't buy a car without a test drive if you can't conveniently ditch it in case it blows donkey scrotes. My suggestion would be to either keep on looking, or go for the one you're most emotionally attached to (if it's mutual), and try and ease him into it or meet him half-way. 1
Emilia Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 When she makes me very aroused she gets even more aroused. She gets off on making me aroused. She would rather give than receive because she is so orgasmic she would cum way too fast if she is on the receiving end. She can cum as fast as a man. IF she is giving me oral and I reach orgasm all she has to do is touch herself very briefly and her orgasm cums. She always synchronizes her orgasms with mine. I do agree, that there are not many women in the planet that can do this. Speaking as a woman who has experienced this, it depends on the partner equally. With some men I can achieve this when the chemistry is very strong, with others not so much. If you have a strong connection in bed it is absolutely amazing how you synchronise in a very short period of time with the other person. It's astonishing what your brain can do when the stimulation is strong enough. 2
Emilia Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Yes, and I am sure there are also a few men on this planet that can orgasm solely from giving their wife oral and never having their penis touched. They get off on making her so aroused and would rather give than receive because they are so orgasmic. Clearly you aren't one of those 'Truly Orgasmic Men'. Tsk, you anorgasmic fluke. You should let your Truly Orgasmic Woman be with a Truly Orgasmic Man instead of making her put up with your Anorgasmia. Until you experience sex fully, you don't know these things
xxoo Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 As far as public sex goes, Im not talking about purposely trying to get caught. Maybe outside on my porch at night, or at a park at night, or maybe giving a bj will he is driving. I'm not going to say I never did it in my younger, more foolish days, but sex acts while operating a vehicle are incredibly dangerous! As a mother with children on the roads, I implore you to refrain
Stephanie Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Let's keep to the thread topic please. The last page of posts are 'off topic' and are not addressing the "Men who suck in the bedroom.." Thanks
kaylan Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Speaking as a woman who has experienced this, it depends on the partner equally. With some men I can achieve this when the chemistry is very strong, with others not so much. If you have a strong connection in bed it is absolutely amazing how you synchronise in a very short period of time with the other person. It's astonishing what your brain can do when the stimulation is strong enough. And this plays right into the point I made earlier. If the chemistry isnt there, why in the world would anyone try to paint the OP as having orgasm problems? I know that with the right woman, everything syncs up beautifully and we both can orgasm with ease. If I was with women similar to the 2 lame guys OP described, Id probably go flaccid.
2sure Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Completely On Topic: I am over 40, divorced, gun shy , and dating casually. I do not have the emotional ability at the moment to have enough interest in anyone to have a real relationship. And I certainly have no interest in test driving every man I date. But I do sometimes want sex. And this isnt about FWB - thats easy enough to obtain (probably especially at my age?) Its the RISK of putting myself out there as far as intimacy and then not having a good time. I would, and I am completely serious, like to have references from other women. I dont think Im alone on this. And I would not be opposed to giving a reference either.
worldgonewrong Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 most men will not get the typical "dont stop" for what it is: KEEP DOING EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE DOING" it doesnt mean go crazy, go faster or harder.... a simple istruction that most men do not understand, I follow instructions very well.
Author zanesfan Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 Im sure we all have learned a great deal from this thread. 1.) If you dont have chemistry with someone the sex probably wont be as good. 2.) Find someone that is on the same wavelength as you sexually. 3.) Not all women are hyper orgasmic.
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