b18bme Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 So my ex called me last night from HAWAII she is on vacation. She starts talking to me about what she doing and what I want from there. I said i dont want anything but it would be nice. She says she is getting my B-day present from Hawaii and we continued to talk for an hour. The crazy thing is she broke up with me and has been a real jerk since. I really tried hard to get her back and it just pushed her much further away. I have really tried leaving her alone for the past few weeks. She said to me that if I would have just given her the space she requested in the first place we would probably be together. She asked who I met and who I was dating and i asked her why she wanted to know. She said Because you seem really happy...Well I didn't really wanna talk about it but she persisted to the point where I said yes I have met lots of knew people and I am dating others. She said well thats good, then she said nobody wants to take her out on dates. I said BS I have been trying to take you out. But then she said well I cant date you because I have to get over you. I asked about the knew guy she has been seriously dating and she said Well if you consider Wendys and Dee's as a date. I told her that I know she has has been kissing him and getting serious with him and she said that it was personal so not to talk about it. Was it good or bad to tell her that I am meeting lots of new people and have been going out on dates? This is the second time in the past week that she has called me and we have talked for atleast an hour both times what, or how should I take all of this, and what should I do? Remember I really want this girl back bad!!! Did I push to hard to get her back and now she is not comming back? Whats the best way to play my cards so I can try and get my sweetheart back?
devyna Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 You have to make her want you back. When you talk to her, you need to be there for her as a friend more than anything else. Talking about what you are doing in your life and most importantly, listening to what is going on in her life. By being there as her friend, you will make her fall for you all over again...getting back together must be her idea, but don't jump right back into the saddle. Show her a little of how hurt you were when she ended it, and make it clear that you don't want to be hurt like that again. That will make her try all that much more to make the relationship work. Remember though, Friends first!! You wouldn't believe how important it is to us women to have good friends, especially those we can and have loved. Always play the game with honesty though, if she catches you lying to her in anyway you might lose her for good.
Author b18bme Posted July 31, 2004 Author Posted July 31, 2004 Somebody try and help me understand please!
Author b18bme Posted August 1, 2004 Author Posted August 1, 2004 Ok she called me last night at 2:30 am from Hawaii again. I didn't wanna answer so I didn't I wrote her a text message asking what she needed and she said she just wanted to say hi but she would call me today, Somebody should really try and help me figure out what I should do and how I should handle this.
Elvis4ever Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 Hi there...well, if you want to get her back...its good to be friends first and let her see that you really care for her. But, it sounds to me that she just wants to see if you have moved on and if u have she wants the details...sounds like she'd rather see you at home depressed and greiving for her. Its hard to think...but some people are like that...but, you have to do what your heart tells you...i have been there too many times and the person has come back...just to use me like they did before...Its kinda odd that she wants to know who your dating but when she's asked she wont really tell you anything...i think its good to tell her that your out and about dating people. B/c from the way she sounds...she would like you to come crawling back to her...and this shows that you have delt with the hurt and maybe u still are but u have gotten back out there...but, u just need to be honest with yourself...and she is your ex-for a reason and whats meant to be will be...if she truly loves u and cant live with out u ..then she will tell you..some people dont know what they had until its gone...i hope this helps!!!
derrick231 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Well I have to say, that I'm in almost the exact same situation....I tried to get back with her hard, and it just pushed her away....So then she said she wants to see other people and not be questioned...so I just basically said screw it...and I have tried my hardest not to email her or call her...now she emailed me today saying she is off work and that I could call her if i wanted to... she said she doesn't like being on bad terms, and that no contact has made everything seem really sad...but then she's like I would like to trust you again, but I don't know who you've been with (nobody) and don't know who I'm with now(nobody) or how much she really means to me..(which is alot)....I'm scared of putting my feelings out there and getting stomped on again...so I need the same advice as you do...I guess I will call her, and try not to put my heart on the line again though...any advice for me too??
Author b18bme Posted August 2, 2004 Author Posted August 2, 2004 She called again last night thats 3 nights in a row she has called me!!!!!!! I have some advice to give you just be really friendly right now you need to show her that you are there for her and not get all mushy with the I love u's and I miss u, I have done what I have told you to everytime we talk she seems more and more happy to talk with me. She called me last night to share with me her beautiful Hawaiian sunset, she said she has all sorts of pics to show me. This is the same girl that 1 month ago said she never wanted to see me again she was through and starting over. I don't know what to think about all of this but I have given her the space she wanted and I hope she is realizing that I am not gonna wait around. I have been dating others and meeting new people and I think I have realized I want her badly but I don't need her. If hope things can work out between me and her but who knows. I still want more advice though on what to do. Should I stop taking her calls? or should I just continue what I am doing, and what else could I do to better the chances.
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