Fayebelle Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 It's like this- when I was w/ my ex the whole world would spin and all I could see was him. w/ my current BF- we spin and everything else in life gets clearer. I like when I can see where I'm going.
Artifact Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 It's so human to want what you don't have. But, often an ex IS an ex. It's easy to look back and see (through rose colored glasses) how fantastic it was. Still, having said that, if you are not as happy as you want to be, there is no reason to stay where you are. The guy you are with doesn't deserve it and you don't deserve it. I'm not sure if there is a possibility of getting back with your ex- or if he is just a guideline for your feelings, but if something doesn't feel right, think about changing it. Maybe your priorities in the relationship are not the same as your current boyfriend's.
Kelebek Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd Why do we have the one right there willing to give us the world but we want something else? Oh man, I don't know
EC Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd Why do we have the one right there willing to give us the world but we want something else? Oh man, I don't know? I know question of the year huh? I wish guys would post im interested in what they have to say?
julieg Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 sometimes we get stuck in the past to avoid being happy in the present. when we were with the ex we found fault and looked elsewhere. think about it , it is true.
EC Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Just read that Julie.. Ur right.. Sometime i do get stuck in the past because I'm scared to accept the new. Change is scary sometimes and just the thought of starting all over with someone or letting a great guy go just because there's not a spark..it's a scary thing. This subject kept me up last night. I asked my mom "Mom should u settle with a great guy or continue searching for that spark even though you may never find it again...Her answer was... "Sweetheart look at me I'm 38 and I divorced a great guy because there were no sparks and it's you and me now and the thing that keeps me going sometimes is the memories of the sparks I once felt." -sigh- Back to the quote I had read before: "They say in life you only love once and if it doesn't work out you learn to love someone new" It makes me wonder also if in the future I meet my dream guy will I be his love or the one he learned to love? Scary... This subject stinks...It's giving me a migrain.
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