ls32ssibm Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 I thought this would be an interesting topic and was just wondering if anyone had any similar experiences. Last year I gave up an excellent, probably once in a lifetime career opportunity for a relationship. It would have required me moving. I had the lovebug and was assuming we'd end up married. About a month after the damage was done and there was no going back, she dumped me and was with another guy within a week. As I said, this was in September of 2011 and I am more or less over the relationship. However, given the situation, it's had pretty significant fallout that I acknowledge. I am no longer a marriage-oriented person, and couldn't care less about one day having a family. Specifically, I can't see myself again making any personal sacrifices for a woman. As far as dating goes, I am now far too lazy to actively seek or maintain a relationship. I used to be the "flowers on every date" type of guy (seriously), now I can't see myself doing that again for any girl. Keep in mind this was last year, not last week. So, whenever I hear a girl ask "where the good guys have gone", I just assume they were all destroyed by bad women. Or good women, I can't really see a difference between most of them.
ascendotum Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 Don't be so melodramatic. You are young and can get your career steered to where you want over the coming years. One door closes other ones open, different paths can lead to your eventual outcome. Just one bad experience with a chick does mean the same shyte is going to happen again. You have not been ****ed over by bitsh after bitsh. Would you feel all sympathetic to some girl who dated 1 jerk and then slagged off to everyone about 'all guys being cheaters or a******s, and there are no decent guys left anymore, they are all the same'. Dropping the flowers on a date habit is not going to hurt your prospects going forward though. You might be too lazy for a relationship, but I'm sure not too lazy to screw. Its been a year see whats out there, you never know a relationship with cool chick could transpire out of a pickup.
shayla Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 I thought this would be an interesting topic and was just wondering if anyone had any similar experiences. Last year I gave up an excellent, probably once in a lifetime career opportunity for a relationship. It would have required me moving. I had the lovebug and was assuming we'd end up married. About a month after the damage was done and there was no going back, she dumped me and was with another guy within a week. As I said, this was in September of 2011 and I am more or less over the relationship. However, given the situation, it's had pretty significant fallout that I acknowledge. I am no longer a marriage-oriented person, and couldn't care less about one day having a family. Specifically, I can't see myself again making any personal sacrifices for a woman. As far as dating goes, I am now far too lazy to actively seek or maintain a relationship. I used to be the "flowers on every date" type of guy (seriously), now I can't see myself doing that again for any girl. Keep in mind this was last year, not last week. So, whenever I hear a girl ask "where the good guys have gone", I just assume they were all destroyed by bad women. Or good women, I can't really see a difference between most of them. I was beaten nearly to death by my ex husband. I sat around for months with a bald head and staples going across my head (later a lovely scar). All I ever did to that man was love him, and all he ever did was do drugs, cheat on me and started beating me as a grand finale. Do you think for one minute, that I would take that experience and decide that I never wanted to be involved with another man for the rest of my life? To forever bind myself and stop my life because of that? HA! Oh no, I dont think so! I went to therapy, I learned about me and the choices I made, I embraced my buzz cut, put on some make up and some earrings and started dating again! I am now in love with a fantastic man who gives me everything I ever wanted in a relationship. And to think that I could have still been sitting around talking about how my ex did me wrong and now I don't care about men....puhleeeeze. The damage was done, your plan got derailed. Okay that stings, and it sucks. But don't let yourself change who you are because someone that wasn't worth your time in the first place! 3
Emilia Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 As far as dating goes, I am now far too lazy to actively seek or maintain a relationship. I used to be the "flowers on every date" type of guy (seriously), now I can't see myself doing that again for any girl. Keep in mind this was last year, not last week. So, whenever I hear a girl ask "where the good guys have gone", I just assume they were all destroyed by bad women. Or good women, I can't really see a difference between most of them. If you give up this easily, maybe you have no resilience and have always been a weak one.
Emilia Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 I was beaten nearly to death by my ex husband. I sat around for months with a bald head and staples going across my head (later a lovely scar). All I ever did to that man was love him, and all he ever did was do drugs, cheat on me and started beating me as a grand finale. Do you think for one minute, that I would take that experience and decide that I never wanted to be involved with another man for the rest of my life? To forever bind myself and stop my life because of that? HA! Oh no, I dont think so! I went to therapy, I learned about me and the choices I made, I embraced my buzz cut, put on some make up and some earrings and started dating again! I am now in love with a fantastic man who gives me everything I ever wanted in a relationship. And to think that I could have still been sitting around talking about how my ex did me wrong and now I don't care about men....puhleeeeze. That's an amazing story, very pleased for you!
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