Starnette83 Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 well my ex hasnt contacted me since we broke up, its been 12 days and im starting to lose hope, we dated for 3.5 years and now i just feel forgotten, this is the longest ever..usually we would talk after 6 days...maybe he found someone and he just easily replaced me, either way why cant i seem to just let it go and move on and stop the hoping?!?!
aFighter Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 It hurts like hell but it's time to let go the hope. It's over. Hope like that can be a toxin in your body & it can kill you inside. Let him go. The hope that they will call can dive you almost insane with grief if you let it. Move on and find your better tomorrow & it will be better. Trust me.
Author Starnette83 Posted July 30, 2004 Author Posted July 30, 2004 thanxz afighter, it just annoying, cuz i feel forgotten but at the same time i know the longer he takes to not cal;l the more he does me a favor cuz ill be getting over him, its just weird cuz i have all these different moods -happy, sad, angry, normal, weird... I just wanna stop thinking of him!! I know hes not worth it, i know he doesnt deserve me and i know im a pretty, smart, creative, loving chick and i can find a guy who loves me and respects me and doesnt lie to me like he did...but then again the memories i shared with him is what keeps me holding..but whatever..ure right..i gotta MOVE ON and I WILL!!!
popvix Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 It sucks that people like us (who end up on forums) are the ones who still hold a candle for our relationships even though the writing is pretty much on the wall. I would be lying if i said i didnt constantly think about how much i want back what i once had. I know what you mean about wanting the person to contact you - even though the times ive spoken with my ex, ive usually ended up giving her abuse and trying to upset her in order to balance out the pain ive been put through.. its still like a drug you crave, wanting that attention. Time will be the healer unfortunately, as corny and as hopeless as it sounds when your at rock bottom. Perhaps the realisation that things would never be the same if you got back together "theoretically" might help you with this. I mean ask yourself, if you got back together tomorrow and the pain you were feeling right now went away, it would just be replaced with suspicion and doubt in your mind about the health of the relationship anyways - As much as i love(d) my ex girlfriend, and i constantly think about what we had up until we split,... she's just a different person now with different priorities and life and ultimately... doesnt even want what i want - so in that sense, the only thing i crave is the love and emotion you feel, and not the person themselves. Give it time, try and do the things that make you happy OUTSIDE of what you did with that person - for me its going to the gym, listening to music, playing video games and watching dvd's and stuff - im actually starting to enjoy all the free time i have to do those that i didnt have when i was with her. Learn to love yourself once more and you'll find love again some day. Good luck
tom_gbr Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 up until the end of last week I think i was still clinging onto hope a little..i saw her ina nightclub when i was away on holiday....she just ignored me...she did send me a text msg the night after saying sorry and that it was too hard...now i know there is no way that we will ever have contact or get back together...there has been too much hurt, pain and emotion for it to happen again. i do still miss little things about her......her smile, the way she used to turn around in her sleep and kiss me on my shoulder, our road trips...i know i will find those certain things within someone else that i will love she changed so much in a short amount of time...it was like she was a different person. its been over 5 months since we have been apart....i still think about her every day in one way or another...i havent actually started dating yet...just been getting with girls in nightclubs. i just wanna have someone to love again...someone i can talk to about my day and cuddle up with while watching TV...someone i can walk down the street with holding hands and have people stare... i know it will happen.....but at the moment it looks like its gonna be longer than i thought
dub03 Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Its repetitive I know, but its still early. 12 days is not a long time at all, this is the time where it hurts the most. Try not to do what we all seem to end up doing, and that is envisioning situations where you may get back together. That will just make it harder. Just hang in there! Somedays will be great, others will suck... thats just the way the heart works. Eventually it will pass. I know from experience that you can be heartbroken and still have fun. Go out and have a good time. At least when you are out enjoying yourself wiht friends that is time where you shouldn't have a problem not thinking about your ex. Being alone will only cause you to dwell on your feelings for your ex even more.
Author Starnette83 Posted August 2, 2004 Author Posted August 2, 2004 well its not 2 weeks...it still sux...i now have lost hope that things can change, he doesnt miss me...cuz if he did he would have shown it..whatever..i need to move on...
drinana Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Hey Starnette83: I can totally relate to how you feel right now.. It's been 8 days since my ex and I broke up.. I have been doing pretty well (so everyone tells me) but last night I had a dream with him.. He was the best guy in the dream and when I woke up it took me a second to realize that it was just a dream.. it sucked... I too feel forgotten.. How could this person that I was with for 9 years of my life just not be around anymore.. Even though I know I shouldn't, I have this little bit in me that hopes that he calls.. Everytime my phone rings I find myself holding my breath.. I know that the way he treated me wasn't ok but for some reason I can't help but miss him... We seem to both feel the same things.. Anger, hurt, sadness, relief, etc.. It's so hard to figure out which one we feel the most.. which one is how we truly feel.. I guess we're in the process of trying to figure that out.. It's really hard since every once in a while a memory of the good times flash back (i'm sure you understand what I mean).. Just try to be strong.. Keep yourself busy.. My friends and family have been great.. They haven't let me stay home at all.. I'm always busy and it helps.. I noticed that you live in S.D.... Get out, go to a bar.. Flirt for fun... Just do whatever it takes to help you get your mind off your ex... If you ever need to talk, I'm here.. Take care...
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