I am useless with girls, feel like giving up! Can't get over this barrier... ?

[Mr_hopeless]

I am hopeless with girls, literally, I am totally useless. I can't even pluck up the courage to talk to girls I find attractive. This is crazy! I think "forever alone" applies to me at this point haha. The thing that frustrates me the most is, that I am a decent looking guy and I still don't have that belief in myself. It's shocking how hopeless I am.

 

what do you think about this? Any advice you can give?

[BassWalker]

I'm going through the same thing. My problem is I was with the same girl for 9 years. Instead of getting married I wasted my better youth on her. Not saying we didn't have some fun but the point is I'm single and I don't have the looks I did when I was in my early 20's. I prefer women who are 18-23 and I getting old.

I figure a few more years and I'll have to retire from dating.

[pteromom]

What will happen if you talk to an attractive girl? What do you fear?

 

You need to get to the bottom of what you are scared of.

 

If it is just rejection, you have to remember that there are many reasons a girl may reject you that have nothing to do with any inadequacies on your part...

 

Maybe she's got a bf. Maybe she's coming off a bad breakup. Maybe her mom just died. You never know.

 

So you can't take rejection personally.

 

So let's see.... do you have any female friends or sisters you can talk to? Explain that you are nervous to talk to girls, and you want to know if there are any behaviors you have that would put them off.

 

Understand that most girls are the SAME WAY. We are nervous too! And we just want to be liked too! And we are looking for someone who accepts us as we are too! And we have faults and flaws and say the wrong thing too.

 

Are there any attributes about yourself that you are aware of and want to change? If so, work on them!

 

You aren't forever alone. You just gotta try, and if you fail, get back up and try again.