Maddog84 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for just over 3 years now. It's been going well until about a year ago when I started feeling detached a rejected. These feelings have become more so since she moved 2 hrs away for a job, which I can understand the feeling of separation in a long distance relationship. But these feelings came before her move and seemed just amplified when she left. I'm an affectionate guy, I like to be touched, it makes me feel wanted and loved. She's a rather traditional girl and tends to be reserved and waits for me to make a move, even then she doesn't really reciprocate the feelings I'm looking for. We've talked about it before but she says she doesn't know what to do, her parents weren't very close and never had a good example. A year into our relationship we did have sex, she was a virgin at the time. It only happened a few other times in a period of 6 months. After that we'd go through the same motions in bed where we start kissing, I touch her and make her feel good, we grind a bit and that's it. She doesn't touch me and if I ask if she wants to go further, she says nothing. After a year in a half I got angry at her one night because of my frustration of this routine. I feel rejected and unloved, like there is no intimacy in our relationship at all because she doesn't allow herself to get close to me. After I got angry at her I haven't wanted to kiss or touch her anymore, I am tired of this mentally draining game. I then come to find out that she wants to wait until marriage but she failed to tell me this was the case. We've been talking about it but I am just having a hard time with my feelings, am I being selfish or am I truly going to be unhappy since my needs aren't being met? I fear she thinks all I want is sex but I feel a lack of all forms of intimacy. I explained to her that if I was in for just sex, we wouldn't be in a 3 year relationship. I don't know how to explain it to her.
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