bigred0489 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Hello! Basically, I worked with a girl when we were both students, we got on really well, flirted a lot, the usual. Others even picked up on it. When the relationship i was in broke down, I thought that maybe me and her might hit it off (i really REALLY like/d her). However, I missed my chance or just didn't make the move which I have always regretted. So a few months later I met someone else and that was that, me and work girl remained really friendly/flirty but nothing more. People have always asked why me and her weren't an item, we would be great together and so on, one even said "just hurry up, kiss her and get it all over with". About 6 months ago my newer relationship ended and rather than rushing into something as i feel i did last time (me and the recent ex were not compatible on any level...), I decided to just have some me time for the first time in 6+ years (Im 23 btw). So, last night, I get a text from the girl i used to work with, asking how i was, general chat. She then suggested meeting up for a catch up and said she has missed me since we both left the workplace in pursuit of careers. I said that sounded really good, name a place & a time and i'll be there. So next week the two of us are meeting up (im not sure where we're going yet, or if it'll be day/night time). So based on the above, I dont know if this is a couple of friends meeting up for a coffee and a catch up, or if this is a "date" of some description. *I REALLY like her *We flirted for the best of 4 years at work *Other people have picked up on it/made suggestions, jokes, told me I must be "blind" not to see it... *At work events we were always together and there are numerous photos of the two of us together, her arms wrapped around me... Any advice would be appreciated. We're both young professionals now and in all the time I have known her I have never known her to have a partner.
TigerCub Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 The times when I've done something like this girl, I did see the invitation I'm throwing out as a Friends Catching Up kinda thing. But....it shows that she likes your company and wants to hang out. I would say that you should treat it as friends going out and see from her choice of activity, and the convo where it might be headed. Treat it as a friends thing, but if you get some vibes from her or if the conversation shows that she's interested, there is nothing stopping you from asking her out on a real date shorty after this get together.
crude Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Since she asked you out for a friendly catch-up but not a date, I'd assume she's just not that into you. If she missed you as a man and potential lover, she's had ample time to ask you out for more than this little meeting.
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