gitrdone1975 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 (edited) I will try to keep this as short and sweet as possible. OK here's the skinny. Divorce is days from being final, married over 10 years, have children, separated for a year. This entire divorce is from my doing. No cheating just numerous stupid things I did. Anyway she has said numerous times there's no getting back together. Lately I have noticed her cry a little when I try to talk her into trying again. Then out of the blue last week she allows me to come to her place to see the kids. I fixed a few little issues around her place. It ended up getting late so slept in a spare room. Woke up and hopped in bed with her, snuggled for a few then just kissed her for a few mins with only a peck back from her. Days later more hanging out at her place again went into her bed and snuggled again. Let's just say it went a bit further that time. Then days later she again does a 180 she's again distant, doesn't wanna hang out, not very nice to me, texting and calls stopped. All she said was I push, push, and push. That she gives an inch then I take a mile. Then says she was just trying to be friendly. Well the bedroom seemed a bit more than friendly. Then the crying before?? I love and want her back horribly!! I may have just screwed up again. There is nobody else she is seeing or has seen. What is my next move?? Does she still love me, but is scared to trust me again?? Help.....thanks in advance!! Edited October 18, 2012 by gitrdone1975
WhatYouWantToHear Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Some people can't kick their bad habits cold turkey. You are her bad habit. If you want whats best for her, quit trying to have a physical relationship with her and just be her ex-husband. The ship has sailed and she doesn't want you, she has moments of weakness, but in the end, doesn't want you.
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 You were together for over 10 years so you are comfortable to her. Especially that you were separated for 1 year she might be having those butterfly feelings again, like the ones you get when you first meet someone. I think she forces herself to snap out of it, "what am I doing". She looks back at the relationship and thinks about what you did and why it ended. Even though your company feels great now, she can't kick that feeling. My relationships have been MUCH shorter than yours but I remember going through the same feelings when they tried to come back. I loved being with them again, their touch felt comfortable, amazing, loved hearing their voice again, but I'd snap out of it. Even for a second I'd snap out of it and remember the bad and tell myself "I'm healed/healing,I can't put myself through that again" I'm not saying this is what's going on, but I think it is likely.
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