Az706 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Hello first time posting in the forums. I had been with my ex since 2009, we always had a great relationship and got along fine. In 2010 we had our son (first child for either) I am 28 and she is 24. After our son was born her family especially her mother would interfere in our relationship a lot and the father was against her being with me. The reason is because the father is a person who owns a company and is fairly wealthy. I worked for him for a bit but I just saw no advancement in his company, I felt like he just wanted to keep me on a tight leash. So I quit and went back to school and found a higher paying part time job. This really infuriated him and from that day on he hated me and always talked bad about me to his daughter. The guy is controlling and uses his wealth and since he employs his daughters he threatens to fire them if they don't listen to his rules regarding relationships. I saw this when he sent the mother to tell the younger sister to break up with a guy she was seeing or to find a new job. And the younger sister listened!. Anyway now fast forward to 2012 we actually had broken up for a couple of months but were still in contact and tried to work things out. Most of the issues we had were because of her family interfering and not wanting us together. But we just tried to do our best, we both work and go to school. I work more than her full-time and go to school full-time. ALso it's worth mentioning that during our breakup her parents didn't want me coming to their house to see my son.. So I had to hire a lawyer and get a court order to do so because she listened to her parents..(I also pay child support and am a great father) Idk maybe I'm crazy for still loving her and caring about her, but we just broke up again 2 weeks ago and it seems like this time I'm just fed up. She broke up with me and said the reason was she loved me but wasnt in love.. and that she couldn't keep doing this with her family against her being with me. That it was 4 against 1. I tried to talk some "sense" into her telling her that her family shouldn't dictate who makes her happy. But she said "she just didn't see herself being with me". I'm pretty heartbroken but still ok with the decision and told her I understand. But I still care about her, I guess I'm just looking for some advice. Should I try to talk to her parents or talk to her again after giving some space? or should I just let go and do my own thing. Any feedback would be appreciated. Thanks
sweetkiwi Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 aww this is sad. I wish i could give you a hug. You have a child with her. That should be her family. You seem like a nice guy. Not a jerk. She obviously needs someone controlling her. I would never choose my controlling family over the family i have made for myself. You need to move on honey. There are lots of women who would did to have such a support strong man in their lives. Myself included.
Author Az706 Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 Yeah that's something I had told her as well. That we should be our family and that yes her parents will always be part of her family, but now we have a son and we should be our own family and be happy together. But she just seems stressed out and well I think she's afraid of her father firing her and her losing her job and probably any "inheritance" since her mother had told her and me that Vanessa right now is not in the "will". The mother told me this as a way to try and say they disapproved of me. They are real pieces of work.
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