alexa137 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 ok my bf always texts me good morning by 9am everyday, i didnt hear from him so i was kinda bsy and then about 1138am i texted him"u ok" no reply, texted him a few more times(starting to get worried) within the next few hrs of the day, called him no replies, by 5pm i was really worried and scared etc... finally got a text from him about 715pm saying"Please leave me alone, dont text, call or email me or come by my house ever! im done i dont want to be with you! i was devastated and shocked! i was about to say i love you but just scared its a long story but i cant believe he did this over text! he would not accpet my calls and yes i texted him about 20 times (prob shouldnt have) within the next hour asking him what why how etc.......alot more too! you see im just that type of woman who cant just be quiet leave you alone etc... now i feel like ****, like he lied, lead me on to believe he liked me( well as of sun, he like me alot a 9 out of 10) he theory is that he can love me have love for me but not be with me! we did everything together! saw each other everyday for 4 months, and ive never did that with anyone else now mind you our ages! im 41 hes 39, he has been married and divorced(12yrs) and was in a 7yr relationship 1 yr prior to meeting me- i have never been married and last relationship was 8 years ago im lost and so hurt now i hate him! how can he be so mean, just overnight not have feelings anymore? so he says he didnt have his phone at work(which is weird b/c he has an iphone and is on it all the time)! so he worked all day but could be true now i think hes an ******* for hurting me so much and making me feel like idont know it just sucks
geegirl Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Something must have happened before the text. I'm perplexed that someone would just break up that way, not so much over text but the way he expressed it.
a.b Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 People don't just stop having feelings for someone over night. Did anything happen previous to this? Notice a change in him however subtle it may have been?
geegirl Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Alexa, only 7 days ago you posted on General that you guys were talking about potentially moving in together re: the cat issue. What happened in 7 days for him to react this way?
CarrieT Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 People don't just stop having feelings for someone over night. Did anything happen previous to this? Notice a change in him however subtle it may have been? Seems like he actually broke up with Alexa almost a month ago, but this is being dragged out... ?
Eddie Edirol Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 He lost feelings for you long ago, he was just too chicken to break it of with you in person. Probably didnt want to deal with you crying or asking him why in person. By the time a dumper gets to this point, they dont care enough abou trying to explain to you why they lost interest, they just want to move on and get you out of their life. But youre getting something that doesnt come very often on this board, instant closure. he told you straight up that he is done with you, and you dont have to wonder if he is on the fence, or stringing you along. You just have to figure out where you might have gone wrong in this relationship, whether it be your actions, or his actions, and learn from it. And really, at 41, you shouldnt be ok with being the woman that just doesnt leave a guy alone. Maybe thats one of the reasons he is so annoyed? 3
a.b Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Seems like he actually broke up with Alexa almost a month ago, but this is being dragged out... ? And there we have it.
geegirl Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Seems like he actually broke up with Alexa almost a month ago, but this is being dragged out... ? Got it. Looked like all was well with the cat post but must have been more behind the scenes.
Author alexa137 Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 well it didnt feel that way a month ago! i think he was over the cat thing, i told him anyways i wouldnt move in til being dating over a year we both signed leases recently there were some red flags but he told me sun hes still here the negatives: cat, my child, the previous night i called him he didnt answer he called me back and we barely talked, so i said well i guess you dont want to be bother and i swore he hung on me and i said ok bye so i brought it up last night while he was breaking up over text and he said he didnt like that! well hello! act like you want to talk to me! he told me sun he liked me alot but now too many negatives! i think hes insecure
Author alexa137 Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 ok so now the question: what do i do with all his stuff? clothes, hats, body washetc? i put them in trunk of my car b/c i dont want them in my apt! less reminders the better i already threw away the towels from the bathroom! lol should i just wait to see if he asks about them? or just throw away???? havent dealt with this issues in many many years! but this breakup is diff im starting to hate him! for the pain
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 ok so now the question: what do i do with all his stuff? clothes, hats, body washetc? i put them in trunk of my car b/c i dont want them in my apt! less reminders the better i already threw away the towels from the bathroom! lol should i just wait to see if he asks about them? or just throw away???? havent dealt with this issues in many many years! but this breakup is diff im starting to hate him! for the pain I toss/burn everything 10 seconds after they walk out the door. If they are willing to walk away and quit on "us", I want nothing of them anymore. My shirt that she wore last time she was over, I ripped it to shreds. I have kept 2 things, a necklace (I don't know why and it's hidden out of site) and her last text message to me saying she's seeing someone else and was a mistake she slept with me the night before. I keep the text as a reminder of the evil that just left my life.
Sav Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Damn, she wore plenty of my clothes. I would have to go out naked if I had to throw everything she wore to sleep T.T
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 NAT please tell me you didn't toss her stuff! I know this is stupid, but there's still a tiny part of me hoping to get the balance of my things back. LOL, well she didn't really leave much, but yes I tossed everything (except the necklace). I even rearranged my house. If she had left a lot of stuff/clothes/jewelry I would have given it back to her though. Damn, she wore plenty of my clothes. I would have to go out naked if I had to throw everything she wore to sleep T.T Yup, anything of mine she wore is tainted. It's all gone. Maybe I'm nuts but I just can't look at it the same again. I look at it and I see her in it. Within the last 2 weeks I have bought a complete new wardrobe. Almost like a cleansing. It has helped my psyche, like a new beginning.
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