How the hell can I control my emotions and not cry everytime I talk about feelings!!!

[mammasita]

Its SO frustrating. I can't EVER talk about love or feelings without becoming an emotional, puffy eyed, mascara running wreck.

 

Is there anything I can do to control this?

[sweetkiwi]

if you figure it out let me know. I'm like this too. I find that figuring out why i feel like this helps. Also not taking things personal- yes, even when it feels so so personal.

[geegirl]

What happened at your meeting last night?

[mammasita]

What happened at your meeting last night?

 

He said that he is committed to me and wants this to work, but is not sure if and when he will ever be ready to get married.

 

I'm trying to figure out if I am 100% ok with this. Honestly before I met him, I was ok with never marrying again. He came along and dangled it in my face so now Im not sure.

[venusianx13]

He said that he is committed to me and wants this to work, but is not sure if and when he will ever be ready to get married.

 

I'm trying to figure out if I am 100% ok with this. Honestly before I met him, I was ok with never marrying again. He came along and dangled it in my face so now Im not sure.

 

 

Did he have a change of heart? How did he dangle it in your face? And if so, what do you think may have caused him to feel differently than he initially did?

 

Also, if I save myself from crying while discussing sensitive topics, I always, always, always turn red and blotchy (face and chest, mostly). Gah.

Edited October 18, 2012 by venusianx13

[mammasita]

Well he proposed to me back in may, then decided that we shouldn't get married around the beginning of september but wanted to try to work things out. He just wasn't happy. He moved out two weeks ago on Monday. The next day he decided that he does love me, is committed to me but that he needs to live on his own (he has never lived alone, always with the person he was seeing).

 

At the time I was ok because that meant we were still together. In reality, I'm not ok with it. Although I love him, I need him to know without a shadow of a doubt that he wants me. Last night I told him I was going to give him two weeks to think about things and that I was going to date other people because I'm not putting my life on hold for him anymore. I suggested he see others too, but he won't do it, at least he said he wouldn't.

 

In 2 weeks, This will either be the beginning of fixing things for real or the official end. Hoping for the best, expecting the worst.

[venusianx13]

Ouch.

 

I will say this, having been in two failed engagements: Never, ever compromise your values. Stick to your convictions and don't bend. The right guy will truly admire that about you.

 

Also, a person who loves you will never ask you to settle for less than you deserve (i.e. less than what makes you feel happy and secure).