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Okay so a lot of you probably already know this and have already had these thoughts, especially if you are the one trying to help the person who has been cheated on.

 

But for the ones who have been cheated on stop making excuses for them and telling yourself stuff that keeps you from moving on.

 

I despite what I have been saying have been making all sorts of excuses for my ex and thinking oooo we can still be friends and she still cares about me, i don't hate her and I still love her bla bla bla.

 

I made excuses like she didn't know what she was doing, she didn't mean to hurt me, she feels really really bad about it etc etc.

 

But when you look at it in the cold light of day, excuses or no excuses she cheated on me whilst drunk (kissing), went back the next day to clear the air and ended up kissing again. She then proceeded to let me come down to visit her costing me £40 for train tickets and £40 to stay the two nights on campus. Only for her to break up with me half way through, but not tell me she cheated, so I hung out with her and the cheater. So I got to like him (that's probably the worst bit) and then when I go home a week later she finally admits she cheated.

 

I can make all the excuses I like, she might have been confused....but who cares. She still did it, and I should not be the one wallowing about this and I have decided enough is enough.

 

I am moving on, I'm going to Ghana to coach in a small school in August! I'm focusing on the good things in my life, and you should to.

 

Don't let the cheaters run your life! :)

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Yeah, honestly cheaters are the lowest form of life on this earth. It shows a lack of morals, integrity and class.

 

My ex tried to pull the, "I love you so much I can't believe I made a mistake that bad, it happened once, I wanted to kill myself because I didn't know how I could do that to the person I love more than anything. I was blackout drunk, it will never happen again."

 

Yeah OK. Too bad he was drunk THE FIRST TIME he screwed his ex. But wasn't drunk the second, or however many other subsequent times he stuck his penis in her because this went on over the course of a week when I was basically on my death bed with flu, bronchitis, laryngitis, etc.

 

Too bad he was talking s.hit about me to his ex, as he was telling her he didn't know if he even wanted to be with me and he didn't know which of us he wanted to be with. That he was thinking of going back to her.

 

Too bad the week after he cheated on me he was telling me to my face he would never stop talking to her, that she was his "friend" and he always wanted her in his life.

 

Cheaters are full of s.hit. Cheaters are the biggest liars on this planet. They are weak, pathetic, desperate, lost little souls with a gaping void within themselves. I pity my ex. He's a joke.

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Yeah, honestly cheaters are the lowest form of life on this earth. It shows a lack of morals, integrity and class.

 

My ex tried to pull the, "I love you so much I can't believe I made a mistake that bad, it happened once, I wanted to kill myself because I didn't know how I could do that to the person I love more than anything. I was blackout drunk, it will never happen again."

 

Yeah OK. Too bad he was drunk THE FIRST TIME he screwed his ex. But wasn't drunk the second, or however many other subsequent times he stuck his penis in her because this went on over the course of a week when I was basically on my death bed with flu, bronchitis, laryngitis, etc.

 

Too bad he was talking s.hit about me to his ex, as he was telling her he didn't know if he even wanted to be with me and he didn't know which of us he wanted to be with. That he was thinking of going back to her.

 

Too bad the week after he cheated on me he was telling me to my face he would never stop talking to her, that she was his "friend" and he always wanted her in his life.

 

Cheaters are full of s.hit. Cheaters are the biggest liars on this planet. They are weak, pathetic, desperate, lost little souls with a gaping void within themselves. I pity my ex. He's a joke.

 

Exactly, most cheaters will never change.

 

Mine just said she was sorry like a 100 times and never even tried to fight for us. She said I don't expect you to ever forgive me etc.

 

Well guess what, she got one thing right.

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River Rain Established Member

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Okay so a lot of you probably already know this and have already had these thoughts, especially if you are the one trying to help the person who has been cheated on.

 

But for the ones who have been cheated on stop making excuses for them and telling yourself stuff that keeps you from moving on.

 

I despite what I have been saying have been making all sorts of excuses for my ex and thinking oooo we can still be friends and she still cares about me, i don't hate her and I still love her bla bla bla.

 

I made excuses like she didn't know what she was doing, she didn't mean to hurt me, she feels really really bad about it etc etc.

 

But when you look at it in the cold light of day, excuses or no excuses she cheated on me whilst drunk (kissing), went back the next day to clear the air and ended up kissing again. She then proceeded to let me come down to visit her costing me £40 for train tickets and £40 to stay the two nights on campus. Only for her to break up with me half way through, but not tell me she cheated, so I hung out with her and the cheater. So I got to like him (that's probably the worst bit) and then when I go home a week later she finally admits she cheated.

 

I can make all the excuses I like, she might have been confused....but who cares. She still did it, and I should not be the one wallowing about this and I have decided enough is enough.

 

I am moving on, I'm going to Ghana to coach in a small school in August! I'm focusing on the good things in my life, and you should to.

 

Don't let the cheaters run your life! :)

 

Good for you! :)

Life is too short to waste with excuses and wallowing in too much pain. Of course it's still going to hurt, but you can choose to do everything in your power to move on. I did the same thing, though I wasn't cheated on (that I know of!), but after the breakup, I let myself grieve for a little while then took my power back. Focus on being grateful for what you have, not devastated for what you've lost! :)

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Good for you! :)

Life is too short to waste with excuses and wallowing in too much pain. Of course it's still going to hurt, but you can choose to do everything in your power to move on. I did the same thing, though I wasn't cheated on (that I know of!), but after the breakup, I let myself grieve for a little while then took my power back. Focus on being grateful for what you have, not devastated for what you've lost! :)

 

Thank you :)

 

Yeah I've spent the last 19 days hurting and crying etc. But It was last night when I herd how well she was doing and how she's moved on with her new boyfriend that I realised what the hell am I doing.

 

Why am I making all the excuses under the sun for her when it's her fault? I feel like a huge weight has been lifted, still will hurt for a bit but with every passing day it will get easier and easier i'm sure. :)

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Thank you :)

 

Yeah I've spent the last 19 days hurting and crying etc. But It was last night when I herd how well she was doing and how she's moved on with her new boyfriend that I realised what the hell am I doing.

 

Why am I making all the excuses under the sun for her when it's her fault? I feel like a huge weight has been lifted, still will hurt for a bit but with every passing day it will get easier and easier i'm sure. :)

 

Exactly. I took all the blame too, but then realized I didn't do anything wrong. Sure I played my part with some anger, but fundamentally it was his decision to make the relationship toxic.

 

For me it's been about 6 weeks or so and just last night I felt a little sad, but not from missing him, just from being lonely I guess. So yes, it will still hurt a bit, but you'll bounce back quicker. And there is so much better out there for us to discover. Good luck!

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Exactly. I took all the blame too, but then realized I didn't do anything wrong. Sure I played my part with some anger, but fundamentally it was his decision to make the relationship toxic.

 

For me it's been about 6 weeks or so and just last night I felt a little sad, but not from missing him, just from being lonely I guess. So yes, it will still hurt a bit, but you'll bounce back quicker. And there is so much better out there for us to discover. Good luck!

Goodluck to you too!

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Good for you!

 

Your ex is a b*tch.

 

Teaching in Ghana, that's awesome! You have interesting plans in life, a lot of women will really like you for that (among other things about you) and not hurt you.

 

Life is too short to put up with people who cheat; there are many people who won't do it, so why dwell over some @sshole who does?

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Good for you!

 

Your ex is a b*tch.

 

Teaching in Ghana, that's awesome! You have interesting plans in life, a lot of women will really like you for that (among other things about you) and not hurt you.

 

Life is too short to put up with people who cheat; there are many people who won't do it, so why dwell over some @sshole who does?

Thank you :)

 

Yeah gonna be an awesome and eye opening experience.

 

These are the things I am choosing to focus on now, not her.

 

One day she may look back to this time in her life and regret her decisions, but I wont.

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Yeah, honestly cheaters are the lowest form of life on this earth. It shows a lack of morals, integrity and class.

 

My ex tried to pull the, "I love you so much I can't believe I made a mistake that bad, it happened once, I wanted to kill myself because I didn't know how I could do that to the person I love more than anything. I was blackout drunk, it will never happen again."

 

Yeah OK. Too bad he was drunk THE FIRST TIME he screwed his ex. But wasn't drunk the second, or however many other subsequent times he stuck his penis in her because this went on over the course of a week when I was basically on my death bed with flu, bronchitis, laryngitis, etc.

 

Too bad he was talking s.hit about me to his ex, as he was telling her he didn't know if he even wanted to be with me and he didn't know which of us he wanted to be with. That he was thinking of going back to her.

 

Too bad the week after he cheated on me he was telling me to my face he would never stop talking to her, that she was his "friend" and he always wanted her in his life.

 

Cheaters are full of s.hit. Cheaters are the biggest liars on this planet. They are weak, pathetic, desperate, lost little souls with a gaping void within themselves. I pity my ex. He's a joke.

Seriously KatZee, have my baby.

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Seriously KatZee, have my baby.

 

Lmfao! Glad you enjoyed the post. :lmao::lmao:

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