yongyong Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I am not sure how much I have to bend over as a guy in the beginning stage of meeting a girl. I got this girls #. I txted her after several days. no response. I had a good feeling when I met her so instead of just deleting it I sent another one after few days. she responded. we txted little bit. I txted again after few days. no response. I txted again after couple days and I was able to set the date. we had great time on first date. I txted her 2 days later. no response. I think she will respond if I txt her again. But I am thinking Why T F I should bend over like this? I got this girl's number on OLD. we were supposed to meet on sunday. I told her I will txt her on saturday to confirm. I forgot and I txted her on sunday. I said 'sorry blah blah' she said it was fine. when I asked what she was doing she didn't respond. It was my fault. But the thing is if a girl did that she did nothing wrong. I would tell her no worries and we would meet. Those are girls I am dealing with right now. I have more girls like this in the past. a girl ignores txt. Guys are supposed to hit her up again a girl cancels the date. Guys should understand her situation and ask her out again. What if a guy does that to a girl? For guys, have you acted like a woman? (late txt response or forgot to txt back, cancels on a date) What was the result? Did they acted like a Man? (hey no worries) OR was it hard to for you to turn the situation around back to normal? Is it part of the dating rule? (man has to initiate no matter what) OR do I need to have some dignity and ignore the girl when I don't like their attitude?
ja123 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 It doesn't make sense to me that she wouldn't text back, it's not like you're texting her every 5 seconds. It seems rude or like she is playing hard to get. Personally, I'm not a fan of texting: too much room for mis-interpretation, it let's people be cowards, doesn't build intimacy, etc. Start calling, rather than texting, IMO. 1
River Rain Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Dignity above all. I don't get that behaviour, why make someone chase you. No response to me is a deal-breaker. I always respond when a guy contacts me, whether it's good or bad. I know what it's like to be left hanging, and it hurts, so I don't do that to people.
firetiger Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 (edited) Your phone has a call function. Use it. Ask her verbally for a date (or 2nd date), you will get a yes or no answer RIGHT AWAY. If they don't pick up the phone, then leave a message asking her to call you back, or call her again, if they don't call back then you know they are not interested. If they say no on the phone you can still try to persuade them. Calling them shows you are confident enough not to need to hide behind texting. This should be natural if you already had a date with the first girl and developed a rapport. The problem with texting is you give up power and control. They choose if and when they want to text you back so you may never get an answer right away. Leaving you in doubt. It is the same thing when a girl texts you and you flake. You are in control. You can text them the next day on the Sunday and give them an excuse. It is not a question of are you texting like a girl or texting like a boy. There really is no such distinction since both sexes can flake on replies. The difference between a boy and a girl is that the girl can have more guys chasing them giving them more options to get a first date so they put replying to you on hold. While you, as a boy, may not necessarily be casting your net wide enough if you are only sticking to asking one girl out at a time. Edited October 18, 2012 by firetiger
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